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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:hello i split with my boyfriend due to him controlling me and i was no longer happy. i dont live with him and was only together six months. i live with parents and sister. he keeps saying that i ended it cause i wont grow up and leave home and scared of commitment but that isnt true. i felt bullied by him and he isnt right for me but how can i tell him that? i cant so i just said i want to be single and dont want a relationship at the moment. he trying to stay in touch as friends but when i say its hard at the moment and we need time he gets funny and nasty. sends me texts saying i am childish cause i live at home cant commit to him and im selfish for not wanting to stay friends. i just dont like this guy want him out my life. thing is he also has library book out in my name and wont give it back what do i do?
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reader, jinxx  +, writes (11 July 2012):
 Like Aunty BimBim said, block his number. Delete it, block it, light it on fire ! Okay, no don't do that... we don't want to waste a perfectly good cell phone. But you get the picture.
Guys like this are notoriously hard to get rid of. It's like trying to shake off a small dog that's clamped onto your pants. It's not easy.
He wants to manipulate you, and you're right to have seen the negatives and ended the relationship. By saying the things he says to you, he's trying to break down your self esteem so one day, you may just give in and take him back. Do be smarter than him, yeah?
Go to the library and explain the situation. Offer to pay for the book so they can replace it, and he can keep it FOREVER for all his troubles, haha.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (11 July 2012):
 Go to the library and pay whatever the book cost. And dont let anybody else use your card again!
Block his number, he is trying to get you back again using sneaky methods, he thinks if he can get you to beleive the things he is saying you will go back to him. If you stop reading his texts and cant get calls from him he wont be able to try and manipulate you that way any more.
Make sure you tell a few other people what is going on in case this esculates and you need some assistance.
If he persists in contacting you by whatever method, contact your local police station or court house and enquire about taking out a restraining order.
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