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writes:okey! I need help for this one , I can't get a boyfriend!! I don't know what should I do to make guys want to be in a relationship with me .. the thing is that boys see me in a sexual way, I don't know maybe I send them wrong messages but I don't mean to..all the guys that I've been with want one thing: sex and I really want something different so I stopped caring about them but I've found myself without a man !!! what to do ? espacially that there is a guy in my class that I really like and I want to start something with him but I can't make the first step, I'm afraid ,help ! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you lexie88 great answer , thank you all
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): There is no shortage of men who want a relationship as well as sex. There are tons of them. So why are you only choosing the others?
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (2 December 2009):
 Lexie88 provided great advice. You deserve respect and a boyfriend who will give it. Do not be in a hurry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2009): Yeah...seems like most guys out there are like that. It's good to know that you're looking for a relationship instead of playing with guys. You should go up to the guy you like and try to start a conversation with him to get to know him better - become friends with him first! and I'm gonna have to agree with Lexie here on things not working out, but go for it!
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (1 December 2009):
 Guys are going to see you in a sexual way whether you like it or not...they're guys.
You say now that you've stopped caring about the men who only want sex and now you don't have a man...well, you don't want a man who only wants sex so you're doing the right thing. It's better to be single than to be strung along and used for sex.
Now, there are generally two types of men...the ones who want only sex, and the ones who want sex and a relationship. Your task is to get to know a guy slowly, not give in to sex for a while, and use that time to find out who wants only sex and who is interested in YOU. Yes, you will make mistakes and fall for the wrong guy, yes, you will get hurt but there really is no other way around it.
As for the guy in your class, strike up a conversation...see where things go. Don't be afraid of things not working out...how will you know if you don't try? Get to know him a little, don't get intimate with him too soon and you'll soon know what he's in for.
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