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I can't get close to him again?

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Question - (7 July 2010) 7 Answers - (Newest, 15 July 2011)
A female United States age 26-29, *x__confused__xx writes:

okay, My boyfriend an i dated for 2 an a half years. Then all of a sudden he broke up wit me?? He never really told me why, but then we were seperated for at least 3 weeks. He talked to me an said he missed me. We gave each other hugs an kisses an talked bout how things r goin to be different. he understood an so did i. We were actually communicatin with each other. But my question is......why can't i get close to him again?? I'm scared to be around him...........??

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A female reader, xx__confused__xx United States +, writes (15 July 2011):

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okay so i'm dating this guy again, its been like 5 months since we've dated, an were back together again, what did i do wrong before that i shouldn't do in the future, i really do love him, an im so so very happy that were back together....REALLY happy, (:

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A female reader, xx__confused__xx United States +, writes (17 July 2010):

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But what if i honestly think maybe if i give him a second chance He'll be different. I really do love him. I jus can't get over my fear of losing him again. He is my everything. I love him with all my heart. The guys i dated before weren't really anything to me. I think he is??

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A female reader, Gymnast_in_love United States +, writes (17 July 2010):

Well, I think that he shouldn't get anymore chances. If he is the one, he will never break your heart. I know its your first real relationship, and they are always the hardest to let go of. I went through that about a year ago. People change. The two of you were right for eachother before, when you were so close. But now that you have both changed, you saw yourselves fall apart because you just aren't the same people as you were 2 and a half years ago. Its time to just let go. Continue to be friends, but not a couple. You aren't meant for eachother anymore. As hard as that may be to hear. I hope everything works out well for the both of you. You both need to meet new people, so you can find the one that you are really meant to be with.

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A female reader, xx__confused__xx United States +, writes (17 July 2010):

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Well i dated him for 2 an a half years thats why it hurt. We were so close an it jus kinda fell apart rite before are eyes. An we couldn't handle it well he couldn't anyway. He was my first real relationship. He is the real deal. Do you think i should get my heart broken a few more times before i kno hes the one. Or do you think i should jus see if he will stay true an give him a chance. But its his last one.??

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A female reader, Gymnast_in_love United States +, writes (15 July 2010):

Well then maybe it would be best if you didn't stay with him, and just stay friends if you can. If he hurt you so much, it isn't worth it. Wait to find someone that really loves you, respects you, and wouldn't do anything to hurt you. You deserve more than that.

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A female reader, xx__confused__xx United States +, writes (13 July 2010):

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I kno but he hurt me. He shattered my heart. He did so many things to me i cried day in an day out for like 2 weeks or more. An i cried for like a day after we got back together cuz i knew the minute i said yes we can. It wasn't gonna be different. ??..................

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A female reader, Gymnast_in_love United States +, writes (7 July 2010):

I think that you are scared to get hurt. Think about it. He left you once, and for no valid reason. So you may be scared to get too close to him again, and have him do what he did before. If you guys are together again, or are going to be together again. You just need to try and let go of that fear. Remember that he missed you, and he wants to be with you.

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