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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I wrote in a few months ago saying that I couldn't get a girlfriend. There were lots of helpful comments but I still don't have one. I've tried all the usual things like asking if they know anybody who's single but they always say no. And, to be honest with you, they wouldn't try to introduce me anyway. I don't know why. People only care about themselves. As long as they're seeing someone that's all that matters. I've got a friend who's a girl who's now got a boyfriend so I'm being ignored now. She doesn't want anything to do with me. To make matters worse I really like her and she knows it so it's really hurting me especially when all she was doing was texting him and giggling at his messages. I've done everything for her. Why can't girls have male friends when they have boyfriends? Was I being used? I know this sounds pathetic but sometimes I just want to cry. I'm a man who wants to cry. I just feel so unwanted. How do I cope with these feelings? It's really getting me down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008): How about taking a break and working on yourself for awhile? For both men and women, people who are active with their own interests are more attractive than people who center their lives on relationships. You could also come off as desperate if this is your primary focus.
Everyone goes through periods when their love life is kind of slow. The best cure is to start indulging in other pleasures of life.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): Before I met my boyfriend he describes himself in a similar way to you and was in your age group. so.... how did we meet? It was kind of through work but by chance I said I was watching a programme on dancing that evening and he then emailed me (quite cheekily really ;-) and asked me if I fancied Ceroc or Salsa and to let him know. I did not reply for 2 weeks and then I tried dancing alone and then agreed to meet him at Ceroc. We are all shy but someone at some point has to make the first move. I noticed that at Ceroc or Salsa many people are single and there is no pressure to date but everyone has a great time - its quite old fashioned in that people dance with each other politely but has great fun. The age range goes from mid 20's to 50's broadly and is very very friendly. I was happy turning up on my own.
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): don,t give that girl you after a 2nd thought ,i know you like her and it painful,keep open mind,
in apperance wise,
good smelling aftershave
expensive clonge,
dress like gentleman.
act like gentleman.
nice haircut may be styled with gel or wax.
don,t act needy .
there irish here she has exact same problem and she feel unwanted too.i don,t know her i just read alot ,you problem seem very very sinilar to hers
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