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writes: why can't i look into my boyfriends eyes for longer than about 2 seconds?, he tries to gaze into my eyes and i have to look away because i can't stand it. is there something wrong with me? what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Lilly223  +, writes (15 January 2007):
 No, there is nothing wrong with you. It sounds to me like you REALLY REALLY like him, or you are really really shy. It takes practice to be able to do this because it is such an intimate thing.... gazing directly in to someones eyes. As you grow more and more comfortable in your relationship, and gain some confidence in how you are feeling about him, it will be easier to do. Until then... practice a bit, resist looking away for a half second longer than you normally would. Laugh about this... make it a game... make it fun... evetually it will work. But if it doesn't don't stress over it. Often the ability to do this comes with maturity... I was always very bashful when I was your age... now there is pretty much nothing bashful about me at all. It will happen, but seriously, don't worry about it.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (14 January 2007):
 There's nothing wrong with you. Sometimes having a staredown is kind of weird. I think it's just a matter of getting super, super open with each other... try looking at him straight in the eye when having conversation. Then it's not this weird, awkward, silent staring contest. I think this will just take practice.
And hey, sometimes the 'gazing into each others eyes' just doesn't work for some people. It feels weird. I think you're alright.
xxIndia
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reader, cd206  +, writes (14 January 2007):
 It's okay if you find eye contact awkward. It takes practise before you can really keep eyecontact during a conversation or eyegazing. Just try and make yourself look for a few seconds extra everytime. It'll get easier I promise.
CD
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