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writes:I'm not sure what I should do, she's 17 n i'm 22.Is that too much of a difference?So instead look what Ive done, I found a girl who's 31 :/ Is that too much of a difference? Reply to this Question
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reader, Accountable +, writes (27 November 2009):
 I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 21 - I would forget about our age difference if it wasnt for him being almost out of university! It just depends on her mental age (and yours) - whether she's mature enough to handle a relationship with somebody who is likely to be more experienced, more expectant etc.I can't really speak about the other age gap with any experience, but if you two are compatible i don't really see the problem there either - unless she's thinking of settling down soon and you're not, etc.I would just say go with whoever feels right for you, don't worry what other people will think about the age gap. Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): you dont have to find someone your own age to experience love for as long as you are over 18 you can make your own decision know that not all of us are born on the same day good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): You need to concider it's not only about the actual number of years in difference, but the "age" of the person. Their maturity level. Where they are in thier lives. You being able to fall for both a 17 year old and a 31 year old (who by the way isn't called a girl, but a woman) say something about you as well. It tells me that you are conflicted and do not know yet what you want in life. Do you want to lead the carefree life of a young adult/teen? Or are you mature, stable, and looking for security and possibly something long lasting? A woman 10 years older than you I think would be too much, as she is probably on a completely different stage in her life than you are. Especially if you'd actually consider being with a 17 year old.
Then concider this 17 year old, sure the age difference isn't too much, but at her age, one year means a lot. A 17 year old and an 18 year old can be very different. A 21 year or and 22 year old: less difference. See what I mean? If you wait until she is 19, and you are 24, it woulnd't be much of a problem, but as it is now, I'd say she's too young. And you'd come off as a pervert and immature guy only looking for one thing. No offence, Im sure you are a great person, but I do not respect older men who date 17 year olds or below. Girls at 17 barely know who they are themselves. Think back: how much did you know at 17 that you know now, only 5 year later? Big difference isn't it?
Figure out who you are, what you want out of a relationship, and what you're looking for, before you date anyone.
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reader, catchingbubbles  +, writes (27 November 2009):
Hello, i would the that age difference is in your head, if you happy and it is legal then go with the one you liked best.
If you wondering what other will think, then they are more likley to talk about the 31 year old woman then the 17. If you go with the 17 year as time goes by the age gap with become un-noticeable, she is 20 you 25, she 30 you 35 would you ever question that?
As for the 31, you 30 she 39 you 40 she 49 she how it goes.
When i i was about 18/19 i went out with woman who was 28, it only lasted a about 6 months but was good time and even years after i may bump into her one a decade and we still have a connection.
So asked yourself, who makes you happy?
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