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writes:My situationis this. I've been unemployed for 15 months and my 10 year relationship has become very tumultuous. I'm living in her house and find myself in a very awkward situation. I do love her and do what I can for her and around the house. She knows I'm looking for work but her patience is running thin. In the heat of many moments, she says that i'm a mootch and nothing but a big looser and tired of supporting me. She has asked me to leave, but I continue to stay because I love her. I know I can only take so much and my patience with her is running thin. I lost my mom two years ago and my dad lives alone in another state and has offerd for me to move with him. He's 77 and I know he's lonley, I worry about him too. Im afraid of making the wrong decision. I need some help with clarity, advise and a decision. I'm 55 and not a young buck. God bless.. Reply to this Question
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reader, help heros  +, writes (5 April 2010):
 We all no times are hard theese days ESP for jobs more and more people arnt employeed. Have you thought about your own bussness? Or even do stuff around home like painting. It summer soon so older people will need there gardens doing get your self round the local neighbours and ask even if it only a little bit extra better than nothing x
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (5 April 2010):
 Sorry to break it to you, but I can kind of see where she's coming from.
I mean I understand if you've been out of work for a few months (which is understandable in today's economy), but 15 months???
I highly doubt that after fifteen months, if you really tried you wouldn't be able to find a job. Even to go and apply for fast food would be more than what you're doing right now. Sure it's not a desired 'career' choice, but times are tough, and it's not an excuse to not work. Man or woman, everyone should contribute to the bills and expenses. I'm assuming she has a job, or else she's being a little hypocritical.
I think it's time to stop having 'high standards' and start applying to places that will hire anyone. There's nothing worse than someone who isn't willing to work, and after such a long time living off unemployment, I can see how comfortable it can become. So lower the standards and get a job! And in the mean time while you're working somewhere undesirable, look for something that is more desirable.
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reader, Kenj +, writes (5 April 2010):
 It's tough your out of work at the moment, are you looking for a specific job or are you willing to take any job that pays?
I think your partner calling you these things is probably out of frustration, however thats not really an excuse, if she really loved you she should not say these things, plus she would be supporting you in every sense of the word.
You need to ask yourself do you truly love this woman are you truly in love with her? or do you just love her like a friend? I really think that the answer to that should be enough to guide you to know what to do.
Dont just movve in with your father because he is lonley, you should only do that for the right reasons.
I know age makes it harder to get a job, but it is possible to get work, never give up looking and never give up on yourself.
Regarding jobs, what US state do you live in?
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