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writes:I have been going out with the same girl on and off for the past few years. I can't seem to figure her out. When I'm gone, she yearns for me and wants me badly. But as soon as I come around, she'll make any excuse not to hang out with me. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): I think she is playing some sort of silly game a bit. Unfortunately I never did this sort of thing, but girlfriends I had did. What I understand this behaviour to be is a little like ego stroking and seeing if your 'hers'.
What I would suggest is perhaps to call her before you go around and ask if she wants to hang out. If she makes the excuse when your not personally with her then give the impression your not fazed and are going then to do something else. If it is a game then she may try to change her mind, worried what you would be doing. If something is up, she won't try to change her mind and will be indifferent to what you do. All of which is if you want to play games as well!
If you don't and want to know whats up, ask her. Tell her that she is sending mixed messages and what does she want from you? You have known her for a while now so you should be able to have that conversation. Life is too short to waste it on people who don't let you know whether your company is desired or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): IT could be that she doesn't know if your feelings for her are true or not...she might be afraid of getting hurt...I believe this becuz I would make excuses all the time to this guy that I wuz talking to but the truth is I did really like him but I wuz just afraid...Just tell her how you truly feel about her and who knows she might just want to hang out soon with you..Hope this helps....GOOD LUCK!!
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (29 November 2007):
 She's playing mind games with you. Tell her to stop it.
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reader, clh91  +, writes (28 November 2007):
 i'd talk to her.
she's taking advantage of you.
if she denies out flat then get rid of her, you deserve better than to be treated like that.
hope i helped :)
feel free to mail message me about anything if you wanna chat
xxx
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