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writes:Im having mixed feeling about my bf.We knew eachother 3 weeks before we became a couple.Now weve only been a couple for 2 weeks.We clicked from the first minute. And fell for each other before we were an item. He treats me like gold, spoils me and compliments me all the time. Before him, I was extremely unlucky in love, never opened up, because I was so scared of being hurt, over and over again, which happened anyway, regardless of opening up or not. Id never smooched in public, or held hands, but now I do! Its very odd for me. I really have fell, but theres so many mixed feelings too, that im struggling to deal with. Its all very new to me. Ive sometimes thought about ending it too soon, because its scary at the same time as it being intriguing.But I know Id regret doing that, badly.I know im scared of commitment, I always have been, but now i have something special, I cant handle it. Any advice on whats going on, and what can I do to stop feeling so silly and scared. Thanks in advance x Reply to this Question
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reader, softtouchmale2003  +, writes (7 September 2009):
 First of all if you are that lucky to find a man so dedicated to you, as you say -- don't get rid of him yet!
Love's too precious and too hard to find, and finding it with the right person is extremely hard to find.
I think he's used to having a normal, close, intimate, loving relationship and he's lavishing you with what you should have been receiving all along. Precious, loving attention.
If anything, open up and reciprocate. Believe it or not, what you're describing is perfectly normal, healthy and desirable.
What makes this special for you is that you're attracted to him, and as he's lavishing you with all of this wonderful attention, you're starting to feel really good about yourself.
From what you wrote, you had some bad relationships. Try a good one for once.
There's nothing to be scared of here. Just work on it with him together and don't let silly doubts get in the way. Start focusing on each other, working on things together and see if it runs deeper and gets better as time wears on.
If you don't do that, every relationship you get into is going to end before it ever begins.
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