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writes: Help please. My partner has somehow got it in to his head that I am not satified with his male anatomy. He believes this because I haven't specifically commented on his anatomy directly over the course of our relationship. I have always told him how attractive I find his body and how attracted I am to him and how much I enjoy having sex with him. I feel a bit uncomfortable complementing him specificaly on his penis. I never knew that this was an issue for him and if I did I would have told him how much I like his penis. Know after many years he told me that this has ruined his confidence and I feel terrible, because it is just a misunderstanding! I can't compliment him now, because it seems false under all this pressure. Also now every small innocent comment I make is taken as direct critism. This is a terrible thing and will ruin our relationship. He mistrusts me and the tension in our house and relationship is unbearable for me. I don't know what I can do, since nothing that I say or do will make any difference? Please help
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reader, Granny +, writes (29 October 2006):
 I agree with Jadzial, give his piece a name. I was married for 24 years and my ex never needed or expected this. Since my divorce, I have a new boyfriend for 2 years and he loves me to name his penis. When we are apart, I text or mail an extra kiss to "B" and this makes him a very happy man. It's easy and harmless and helps to make peace. Next time you are together, talk to his penis, not to him (and try not to laugh), give him a name and a kiss. Your BF is bound to be bewildered but pleased. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2006): Is your husband always into mind control games, or has he just begun it with his "penis attention" problem? Try solving his problem this way: Get some photos of his dick, and decorate the house with them. Then have your dentist make a crown with a photo of your husband's dick on display (not just for you, but for any patient who wants a penis crown). Finally, make it a habit to start yanking down his drawers, pulling out his penis, and showing it to anybody in sight. Maybe this will make him happy.
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (28 October 2006):
 Most men see their penis as not as much a part of their body but as a separate entity with it's own reactions and impulses. It is like a beloved friend and for you not to notice it, would hurt a man's feelings.
Most women have NO clue the relationship a man has with his penis. Some woman have a hard time saying penis, cock, etc. without it sounding forced or fake. Even if that is not the case it is fun to name your husband's penis and give it some needed special attention.
The best thing you can do now is next time you're sexual with your husband is give his penis some up and close personal time. This might seem silly but you can apologize to his erect penis for overlooking him while you kiss, suck it and stroke it. Then name it some masculine name. Then bring your husband to climax and tell your husband you had fun and tell 'penis name' he did a good job to.
Make a point to use his penis's name while having sex and in sexual conversations. This is fun even in public places, if you chose a common name, to tell your husband you want to see "name" tonight.
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