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writes:I have been seeing a married coworker since March of 2008. We've been together just about every day since. He is so unhappy at home but he won't leave his wife. He is 52 and I'm 26. I'm considering calling his wife so that all ties will be broken between he and I. I don't have the strength to leave him alone myself. I KNOW I'M WRONG, SO WRONG to be dealing with a married man. Please help.....
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reader, Mayfane  +, writes (30 July 2008):
I know how very, very hard this type of relationship is, but the truth of it is, very few men want to leave their wife,their home and their children. Its usually when the wife finds out, however she does this, that she takes action. Its been said before, he has a comfortable situation there. You are adding spice to his life, a little excitement. However, he won't leave her for you. Most men don't want to do that, they want the excitement 'on the side'.For your own self-esteem, tell him very strongly, that you think more of yourself than to play second fiddle in his life, and end it. You will feel rotten for a few days, and it will be awkward in work, but pull down the shutters and get on with your life. If you need support, go out and join a new club or organisation and make some new friends.But please, don't interfere in his life (i.e. phone his wife) its not cool.Good luck
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (30 July 2008):
He has his wife at home and a lovely house and meals put on the table, and then you as a sexy sideline.
Do you honestly think he's going to thank you for taking away one of those from him? He's going to be angry with you and use it as an excuse to leave you, and his wife will have everyone on her side as you are the stalking other woman who causes trouble.
How is it going to go down at work? Do you think you'll be able to carry on there after the crap hits the fan?
Get a new job and move away and cut contact with your boyfriend. They never leave, and if they do then how long before you are at home and getting phone calls from his new mistress.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, lexilou +, writes (30 July 2008):
 Dont call his wife, why make her suffer too. Just stop seeing him, tell him it has to end and be strong about it x
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reader, heatherrrrrrr +, writes (30 July 2008):
 This is going to sound really harsh. I'm sorry. Find a new job, change your phone number, STOP SEEING THIS GUY.If you call his wife, you go down in the history books as another psycho mistress and nobody wants that. Plus you are ruining lives, you know? You are toying with people's entire lives when you do stuff like that - think about their families. It's not cool.You have only been dating since March and it's currently July, which is 4 months. That's nothing, sister, you could move on in an instant and forget he ever existed. So the real question here is, why do you seek out all this drama? What's going on with you that this is where you find yourself?
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