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writes:My girlfriend and i were together for 2 and a half years, we then broke up for about 8mnths, she thencame back to me saying that she wanted me back only to leave agagin and start seeing some other guy. I finished it saying there will never be another chance for us and i didnt speak to her for over a year. untill i ran into her one day , msgs started ,we caught up and she said she had missed me, so much and that i was the only person she could see herself spending her life with. i was still very mudh in love with her even tho i had played the field a bit. we got back together last jan ,and 2008 was awsome better than ever . we moved in together this year in jan ,and the first few months were awsome , but now within the last month or so things have changed, we have been sleeping in separate beds ,she tells me she doesnt think we ware heading the same direction in life ,shes really moody all the time ,some days she is her normal self, but i feel like sometimes i have to ask for a hug, a kiss, i know she is not seeing anyone else cause shes not like that , she has had her heart broken big time in the past and despises it. its only now the last few days that she has really gone cold ,she wont even look me in the eye when i talk to her. i dont know what to do , iam so fucked up by this, i believe its over again for the third time! soz ... can anyone ofer any insight to this would much appeciate it
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (18 June 2009):
 Yeah....I have insight...How many times do you have to be a doormat? Dude, come on...Why are you justifying staying with her...she is playing you like a fiddle. She leaves, screws who she wants until she discovers that they aren't gonna put up with her games...then she remembers..."Who's this guy I can sucker into letting me live with him?"Yeah thats right...YOU!"You know that she isnt seeing anyone else because "she's Not Like That?"Reread that 10 times fast and ask yourself if you are sure...time to man up here buddy. I am being harsh on you because you are deluding yourself that this is going to work out. You want to believe that she is different...that she is just confused...she is not...she is using you and you are allowing it to happen She can tell you until she is blue in the face that she loves you, but her actions speak otherwiseYou can do so much better than this. Please get that huge red Doormat sign off your head. You serve her purpose on a temporary basis only. If you enjoy this kind of treatment, feeling like crap,then continue to let her stay with you. But if you are tired of feeling like this and the uncertainty that goes with it, then I suggest you do not wait for her to decide what she wants...make the decision for her and dump her.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (18 June 2009):
 to be honest i don't know why you got back with her... i mean you guys broke up twice before and clearly that reason is always there. going back to an ex should be a no no i know you still loved her and stuff but you guys broke up for a reason right? well that reasons never going to go away sometimes you may forget about it but when something it happens that reason resurfaces and you remember why you guys never worked. i think this relationship ended a long time ago and you guys were just holding onto the fact that you thought you would be together forever and wanted to be together forever but after living together things started to become a little more different in the way you saw eachother. i think this relationship is over and has been for a while. you guys just wanted to give it another go to try and hold onto the hope it would still be alive and the flame would still be burning but i don't think it is anymore hun. sorry.Hope this helps :) x x x x x
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