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writes:Hi, I am a 30-year old male who is single after a 4-year relationship that ended 6 months ago. I have been trying hard to get back on the dating scene with no success. I am not sure what the reasons are but I can't seem to attract women or shall I say, the "right woman". I am very confident in my looks as I have been called "hot" be several women, I am fit, witty, educated and have a very good job.I find myself so lonely that I sometimes frequent strip clubs and usually end up hooking up with strippers. I feel that's the only way for me to meet attractive women as I don't have too many friends to go out with and I despise bars and clubs. I have had a couple of short relationships with the strippers I ask out but obviously, that's in no way a reasonable solution to my loneliness.Another girl that I met was only hanging out with me cause she liked me taking her out and paying for drinks and outings... Once I stopped, she stopped calling me.Although I am picky when it comes to looks, I find it hard to understand why I can't seem to even find a date let alone a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): Hey my good man!
I can seriously one hundred percent relate. I ended a five year relationship and that same week i was in a strip club, out of pure anger and hate, and loneliness too. You wont meet nice women there as I did try and even tried hooking up with an escort (illegally and I dont advise that). Cause my head wasnt clear and was doing these things out of emotion, it turned slightly bad. I think your confidence is shot. Forget women who drink. They just want dudes who are nice and all that crap so they can take advtange of them. Thats not us right bud?
My advice: Go out with friends. A guys nite out can do you wonders as groups can attract peoples attention more, moreso women depending where you go (just avoid the bingo hall lol). Dun be scared to get a wingman either, a good friend who you trust and can help u engage in ladies if needed. Chances are he can help u cause if he has confidence in going out, that can rub off on you if hes a good influence. Or you can do what I did and go to clubs and study trance djs lol...didnt meet any women but met some damn nice ppl who I still stay in touch with. Stay off dating sites those make u desperate easily without thinking anyone can be anyone. Good luck. Message me anytime if u wish :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): A strip club is probley the worst place to search for a girlfriend. U should find a new hobbie whr u can meet girls who are who they say they are.. I used to dance for 3 years..
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reader, Ven +, writes (17 October 2010):
You can't find a date let alone a relationship because you are looking in the wrong places. The reality is that you don't meet serious dates in bars or clubs. Maybe people get lucky and find someone once in a while, but it isn't a good place to start.
Instead, find something you would love to share with someone, or something you feel very strongly about, and get plugged in with people from those places. Example:
I am a christian. The single most important trait I am looking for in a mate is that she is also a christian. The best place to go for potential mates? Church.
That could have just as easily been renaissance fairs, Moody Blues concerts, conservation conventions, or a local hobby hangout. Get involved in groups that do what you want to do, and you will get the added benefit of women seeing you sincerely passionate about what you are doing.
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