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writes:Heya.. Im 20 years old and currently in a relatioship of 7 months. When my partner and i met it was realy nly for casual sex ( ano it sounds harsh) but one thing lead to another and we fell for each other. I found out just before we started to date that he and my best m8 at the time we texting but never met however he explaind she was tryin it on and he was havin none of it and was us seeing how we wer as me and him had had an argument. i finishd being friends with her then forgive him! then it was all great until recently, i cannot trust him and then found emails on his computer from a girl he had deleted of fbk, he says that he had just said sorry and explained why he had deleted her. So me being me, forgive him.. Its got to the point in this relationship that i cannot trust anything he does! i am suffering from depression and anixiety, and gettin referred to a theapist. I will no long talk to me abot his feeling, but says he loves me but doesnt know why. i doesnt kiss me but just wants sex!I am stuck in a rut, because i have noelse as i made him my all ..Please help.Thanks
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reader, Miss_AF +, writes (2 December 2010):
Miss_AF is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni was cheated on in the past so im very insecure from that. We do go on out for dinner and have dvd nights wer we get all cosy. but lately he has just been very distant, them came home with a huge xmas card saying how much he loves me. He is given me mixed signals and i just dont know what do i. i cant even trust him when he is at work cos i feel lik he is talkin to other girls. when we go shopping and i see him looking at girls i go into a fit!! i hate it!!! .. this trust is damaging this relationship, i feel it should be over, but i love him to much, then i ask how can i love him if i cannot trust him!? he says if i cheated on him it would do him a favour.. i do not know if its me causing all these problems or its him wanting me to do finish it. he wont speak to me cause he says he doesnt know why he loves me. we have broken up a few times but he keeps coming back.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 December 2010):
 Ok first off you need to get your own issues sorted, because it sounds like you are very insecure and you are getting help for that which is good. But hun you cant go through his emails and texts, even if he is writing to other girls he is entitled to do that, it doesnt mean that he is cheating on you, its allowed for him to have female friends and you need to be able to trust him to have a relationship with him. However if you feel that he only ever wants sex then he might just be saying to you that he loves you so he can get what he wants. Words are nothing, actions are everything. So you need to sit down and talk to him and tell him how you feel, if he loves you then he should be prepared to show it. If he only ever wants sex and doesnt do other couple things with you like going out, having nights in were you kiss and hug but that is all then am afraid he is just using you for sex, if that is the case get rid of him and sort out your life. You will meet someone that deserves you.
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