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writes:my boyfriend has recently had a baby with his ex, he is now seven months old.we got together eight months ago and i new about the birth coming along.he had broken up with me a while ago and begun going out with his ex only to realise once again that it will not work. he tells me the reason he keeps going back is because he feels its the right thing to do, that he always has to be their if she wants to try and make things work again.when we were together in a relationship he said when he was visitng his son he feels like he is cheating and doing a wrong thing.is it wrong to move on when its clear the relationship will not work with his baby mama.also she is a nut case and will never except that we are together so how can we be together if she is like that.?how do i help my boyfriend realise that its okay to move on . why does he feel bad?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (2 December 2010):
 I think (and I'm sorry if that hurts your feelings that is not my intention) that you are his rebound-girl.
He will keep going back to her over and over. Personally, I would end it and find someone more compatible, who is also totally available. Your guy isn't, because he is NOT totally over her. She can be crazy as a coon, that really doesn't matter.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 December 2010):
 He is just sensitive and feels he is doing something wrong, he obviously still cares alot for the mother of his child and you need to question is he still in love with her, because it sounds to me like he is. sit down and talk to him ask him does he still love her and if he wants to be with her, its not fair that you are second best and you need to no were you stand with him, its not fair on you.
If he doesnt want to be with her, then he needs to tell her that she has to accept that he has moved on but that he will always be there for his child. Off course it is ok for him to move on and be happy with you, but something tells me that its not what he wants. Only he can give you the answers you need.
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