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36-40,
anonymous
writes: I am engaged to be married and both of us have been in love for a few years now. when i first met him, he was very broad minded about things, it was only after he fell in love with me that his thinking changed and he had to accept that he was old fashioned. My problem is that I have not told him the truth about my previous relationships. He is not fine with the idea of physical intimacy and i had been intimate with the other guy although i remained a virgin until i met my fiance. He says that if anythin like tht had happened, although he cant stop loving me , he can never be the same with me or love me the same. But i will most certainly lose him if he comes to know the truth. He loves me deeply and is possessive about me and will never forgive me if he knows. And i have been feeling guitly about hiding the truth all this while but i do not want to lose him either, i will completely break if he is not there in my life. At the same time, i cannot stop feeling guitly since he has been honest and sincere with me from the beginning and trusts me with his life. I love him a lot and have changed so much for him and there is not a day that goes by where i have not regretted my past foolishness. I cant sleep most of the days because of the guilt. I do not want to feel like a liar but i dont want to lose him either.I honestly cant live without him. What should i do?
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reader, planepocket  +, writes (3 February 2009):
I wouldn't worry about your past feelings for someone.You love your husband now and as long as you love him and not someone else,past loves don't matter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009):
the world is changing and india has come a long way too. there's far more acceptance of relationships prior to marriage.its so common these days. don't worry abt it..first of all he wudn't know of your past unless he has some link with your old school/college friends etc. and even if he comes to know of anything it shudn't be a big deal so take it easy as he will know that you love him and present is what matters.
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