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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Here's my dating dilemma: Im 26 and have a bf who is 28. We have been seeing each other for 3.5mths now. At the beginning he used to be very txty to me from his cell, and wanting to see other frequently during the week or over the weekend. Over the past 2 weeks, things started to change. I understand that he is busy at work sometimes, so I just send him a text once in a while. Though he barely replies back, and when he does he says he was busy, but sometimes I don't get any reply back at all. (Im trying to be understanding to certain circumstances that can be at his workplace).He used to sms me saying morning or goodnight, and none of that. This week he didn't initiate with any txts, he replied to mine though.I know that he works and studies, just like I do but I can take a minute out of the day to say hello to someone or try to see how they are doing. Im not trying to be demanding on him at all, and so he has his space as he wishes. Though, I feel that he is not as interested in "us" at least I feel that way. On the one hand, he may be because I met his family and they called me his wife in many jokes, which we take it light to heart. I just don`t get him at this point. He speaks of long term, like me flying with him for a wedding in September. Though, I feel that he is not as attentive as he should at least show some initiative. In the meanwhile, Im busy with school, we see each other when I ask if he wants to go out but he never initiates our dates at all. It`s been confusing me, and I know that he may want to see me one day over the weekend but because of how this week was I feel like wanting to stay in at home and study towards my exams or go see a friend of mine. I cannot read his mind. Help!
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reader, XxDefineMexX  +, writes (10 April 2009):
 Sit down and find a good time when both of you have plenty of time and are in the right setting for such a conversation. In other words make sure your and him aren't busy and no in like a bar or something.Just sit down and tell him how you feel. Explain the situation and always tell the truth. If you're upset than Goddammit be upset! Let him know!If you really want to be married or date long-term than you're going to have to learn to bring difficult subjects up. Just pluck up your courage and go for it!
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