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writes: My boyfriend and I have a healthy sex life with eachother and I love having sex with him. He also took my virginity. Our sex is great and everything and it feels good but I just dont think he can ever give me an orgasm and it kinda scares me.. Im 18 years old and I've given myself many orgasms theres just a certain way to do it and I use toys to acheive one..it just takes a while and the only way I seem to have one is with clitoral stimulation. But I never get that amazing feeling when he's giving me head or having sex with me. I worry that Ive done it a certain way for so long that that's the only way to acheive one..I can just never imagine having one while having sex, but all of my friends have and Im thinking theres something wrong with me. I've heard that theres a large percentage of girls thats never had one while sex in their life. But is there something we can do about it? Anything to enhance the sex..like I heard theres certain products to help you have one? Any techniques? Dont be shy to give too much information. I'll truly appreciate it. Thanks:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2006): Hey, have you solved your "problem" yet? I have the same problem! I can achieve an orgasm while having sex with my boyfriend, and he's my first and only partner so I have nobody to compare with. I'm not sure if it's me, or my boyfriend, or our relationship. Please let me know if you found any help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2006): Im 17 and me and my bf have the same problem :S i can give myself a clitorial orgasm but never seem to be able to experience it with him through sexual intercourse. :(
It really gets me down because my bf feels like he isnt being a good lover and that someone else might give me the pleasure he cant. I must admit that i faked it at the beggining of the relationship to boost his ego but now i want the real thing!
so i did some research... and found out its quite common,
there are ways to make your man last longer in bed,
which in my case could be the answer, lotsa foreplay always helps :) most women should have at least 20 mins of foreplay to be in the right state for it. But everyone is different. Things on your mind during sex can often distract you so try to relax.
Hope we can work it out! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2006): some people say they can only achieve a clitoral orgasm, howver my fried who has this problem got her bf to lick her out then just before she was about to cum put himself into her. hope that works!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2006): No, I don't think this is unusual, you are more relaxed when having sex with yourself and probably are not as focused on your performance or his pleasure while having sex with him. Also, his skill and knowledge of your body is a reflection of his age and experience and how quickly he orgasms himself.
I would try to worry less about having an orgasm and more on enjoying the sensations and the experience. I also believe that your minds and hearts have a lot to do with the sexual exerience, perhaps you are not that intimate emotionally with your man at this young age, and are mostly involved in order to have sex...
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (13 November 2006):
 Oh my Lord,
All though I don't exactly have advice for you, I will assure you that you're perfectly normal because I have the EXACT SAME PROBLEM (or maybe we're two weirdos, I don't know).
I know my boyfriend is a great lover, but it just doesn't feel quite the same. I love the emotional connection of sex, but physically it's just not "mindblowing" like it is for him. I hope lots of people answer your question because I'm curious as well.
Good luck to you (and to me too!)
Love, India
xx
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