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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi I know I'm young but I still end up feeling insecure and down about this topic. I have pretty much no romantic history at all e.g never been past a hug or been on more than one date. I keep feeling that I am unattractive and alone. I mean I can't seem to find the problem I mean I never seem to have a problem with guys chatting with me or flirting but it we talk for a while then arrange a date and when it comes to a date or even just meeting up they seem to act really awkward and it's pretty much dead from there. Have I just been unlucky so far or is it me ? It's not like I give off a desperate vibe as I don't assume anything beforehand, I don't act overly eager, im not frigid or overly eager either so I can't think why they seem to be scared off. It just knocks my self esteem as I can seem to get plenty of one dates but nothing more.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (31 August 2012):
 Most important skill is to listen more than you talk. And to help you listen you need the right approach and some good questions.
I can help you on that. Below is an article on 20 questions you can ask a date and allow your date to talk without any interruption. Just with good listening skills and be rapt with an interested look on your face, really want to hear what he is saying.
And being postive helps too. So below is an article on being positive.
And there is IQ and there is EQ. EQ is emotional intelligece. Lots of people get on really well with people because their EQ is high. To see how high is your EQ and to find out ways to improve it (Because you can) then try the FREE EQ test below.
Follow all the advice above and below and things should start to look better.
Here it is: http://www.ivillage.co.uk/test-your-emotional-intelligence-eq/74101
Above is your EQ FREE test
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/20-questions-to-ask-someone-on-a-date.html
Above is your 20 questions
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/real-love.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/tunnel-vision-positive-thinking---used-to.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/10-situations-that-scream-hes-a-player.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/who-is-a-natural-flirt-and-what-qualities.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/online-dating-friendships-general-safety-and-security-protecting.html
Follow all the above and let us know how you are faring in 12 months time?
Best Wishes
Abella
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