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writes:i need to be done with my ex boyfriend, but i just can't be done. i can make an excuse for anything he does.like when my friend committed suicide, he told me it was pry my fault. i kinda figured he said that b/c i told him i was going with another guy2 the funeral. a month later he told me he was thinking about suicide and i figured he only said what he did because i was crying over another guy when he was going through the same stuff.then we got back together and he cheats on me. i figured it was because i was mean to him. i get mad easily (like if he calls me later then he said he will, i go off on him. i'll say stuff to hurt him intentionally if he just looks at a girl to long, or hes hugging a girl i dont no).we're really messed up. like he will tell me hes going to kill him self if i tell him he should change schools (b/c hes suspended alot from our school). and he tries to make me jealous if i hug a guy friend of mine.he hurts me so much on a weekly basis, but i miss him so much regardless. we broke up for 5 months (the longest apart) and i still thought about him every day... y is it like that?? y cant i let him go????? y do i still love him when he obviously dosnt love me????????
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (16 October 2010):
 Stop making excuses and start finding faults. He told you that your friend committed suicide, not because he was angry that you were going to the funeral with another guy but because he is selfish and malevolent and he wants to play with your emotions like a cat with a ball of yarn.
He cheated on you because he did not care about you. I know people like this. You could have been the nicest girlfriend ever but he would not care, all he wanted was a heart to play with cruelly.
If he threatens to kill himself, just walk away and let him do it. He cannot keep playing with you like this and you need to just get away from him and ignore him. He is not likely to end his own life, it is just something to reel you in with.
I hope that helps.
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