A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Don't know whether this is the right site but I need some advice. I can constantly hear my parents having sex. I completely understand that this is a natural thing and I am happy that they are still in love and can still experience that together but I feel it is inappropriate for them to be so loud. With me being 19 and having a job, I pay board and although it is their house I feel that they should respect me and understand that I do not want to hear that. When I have sex with my boyfriend I always keep quiet and make sure that they cannot hear when they are in the house. They are so unbelievably loud and I can hear everything!My mum and dad are not people that are easy to confront so I'm not too sure what to do? Thanks in advance. Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Honeypie  +, writes (3 July 2012):
 Headphones or move out.....
Honestly, I think it's great that they are still going at it. But I do understand that as their child that is not something you will want to listen too.
A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (2 July 2012):
 one word: HEADPHONES.
OP it's their home and they have the right to do as they please. Short of going to your mom and saying something the only other thing you can do is put on your headphones when they go at it.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2012): If you have a job, why don't you move out of the house?
...............................
A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 July 2012):
 Yes it can be embarrassing to say this to your parents, but if you don't mention something then they will never know. So talk to your mother and tell her how you feel.
Also be prepared you might not get the outcome you want as it is there house at the end of the day and they are free to do as they like, yes you pay your way but still it is there home, maybe you should think about using the money you pay them to rent your own place so you can have your own privacy.
...............................
A
female
reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (2 July 2012):
 HI
Ok this is a tricky one , especially when you say they are not easy to confront, because they will always say this is our house if you dont like it move out your an adult. HOWEVER from your point of view I totally agree they should concider the fact that you ARE in the house and why would you want to hear this day in day out. The only thing well two things you can do are 1) put on a set of headphones when you know its about t o start. 2) sit down with your mum when she is alone and explain to her, that its great the way her relationship with your dad is still so amazing, but could she really try to keep the noise down as you can hear them and not just a little noise EVERYTHING. maybe she will be embbarrassed enough to respect your wishes, but untill you say something how is she to know?... we sometimes get carried away with the moment and dont realise the noise were making.
Mandy xx
...............................
|
