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writes:So there is this girl that i meet online and we are going to meet in a couple of days, we live far away from each other, so it will be a long time before i can see her again. So i was wondering if it was okay to ask her to be my girlfriend, as i know it will be difficult to go on another date as we both live in diffrent countries How should i go about this should i ask her on the date?I know this might be awkward. Or should i wait and message her a few times and then ask her to be my girlfriend, well i know that i have not meet this girl but i was just wondering if we hit it of and we have good chemistry should i ask her then??
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell thanks all to the responses. I think all of you are right but i have been burned in the past and this girl seems really great she is almost kinda like me in a since but either way, i find that a long distance relationship is difficult i was in a relationship for four years when i was about 16 so i guess that means i am not ready for commitment but either way a long distance relationship is difficult at least when i was with my highschool sweetheart we got to see eachother everyday, but who knows i guess i would rather but myself out there then to just ignore a chance to find someone that is really meant to be with me, but who knows. Some of you stated in your answers that i'am to young to be in a DLR or in a serous relationship with someone due to age, i suppose that is true but i also know that some guys that are in thier thirties and are dating play video games all day and dont even have jobs and some women date douche bags, regardless of what you guys said and i appreciate the feedback, i guess if i dont try to see this through i would just be another guy that goes online dating and ends up droping a girl because it's easier, no relationship is easy regardless of were you are in the world people make it work and people can build or destroy it i dont know what it will hold for me and her but, life doesnt wait and should i just quite i would disrespect this girl and myslef i like her and i hope that people see that technology is opening new doors and expanding our relationship with others, maybe you guys should try it
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (2 July 2012):
 I’m sorry but if you have not met face to face yet and you won’t be able to see each other for at least 4 months, I don’t recommend you ask her to be your girlfriend.
You are very young to have an LDR. They never worked for me till I was an adult and we were only 2 hours apart and we saw an end to the distance.
YOU must have a way to end the distance within a reasonable time or else it’s not a real romance. I strongly think that it’s best for you two to just be friends…. I don’t see how this can work out…
your rationale for wanting her to be your GF is lousy to be honest... a gf is someone you want to be close to, to be intimate with... asking her to be your GF so you can get to know her better is putting the cart before the horse...
i mean what if you get to know her and find out she's not for you? then you have to break up.... better to get to know her better first and if she won't open up to you, that may be because she's guarded due to the distance knowing that there's not a lot of hope it will last.
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reader, N91  +, writes (2 July 2012):
 With your update, asking her out sounds even worse of an idea. If you can't hold conversation with her, I doubt she's going to want to be your boyfriend, I don't really see how that will change anything as you're still going to be long distance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell thanks for the help guys but yeah i know it sounds that i want to hurry things up but we wont be able to meet eachother for about 4 months after i meet her so it is a long time and right know how the relationship is going i really dont hold a conversation with her well a long one anyways i think a relatioship well allow her to open up more now that i will not just be another guy but her boyfriend.
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reader, N91 +, writes (2 July 2012):
Woah woah woah big guy, hold up for a second. You haven't even met this girl yet! Give the relationship chance to develop or you're just going to come across as very clingy and needy if you're wanting to get into a relationship after the first time that you guys have hung out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2012): Um.... you haven't met her yet. So NO, asking her to be your girlfriend at this stage would be a big weird. See how you get on in person first. Maybe you can have the conversation about where you want to take it from there when you are saying your goodbyes.
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