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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:A former friend hated me when I started dating his best friend. I found out he had a crush on me which may be why he hates me so much. I've never done anything to hurt him but he blames me for my bf not wanting to hang out with him. My bf said he wants nothing to do with him because of his hatred towards me, but it's a shame he can't be civil. because of this, my bf broke down crying the day he found out how his 'friend' really felt about both of us. I feel horrible that I've ruined their friendship but my bf keeps saying that he'd rather lose a friend than be miserable without me. What can I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): female anonymous, when we did try to talk it out, he refused to say a word to me and said he would handle the situation between my bf and him.(jerk!) after that he said that he resented both of us, me for no actual reason, and my bf because he felt ignored. The funny thing is that a few nights ago he emailed my bf and asked him if he wanted to come over and hang out (the nerve of this guy!). my bf didn't know what to say.
caring guy, you're completely right. Who needs this jerk anyway! I just can't get over the fact that he made my bf cry and expects him to 'hang out'
thanks for the perspectives everyone. :)
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 June 2010):
You haven't ruined anything. Why are you blaming yourself? What kind of a friend is this guy anyway? He's just turned against you and your boyfriend for no other reason than his own selfish interests. He didn't say a word about fancying. Instead, he just turned against you. Stop blaming yourself and cut this so called 'friend' out of your life. You don't need a person like that in it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2010): You are not responsible for the friend reacting how he did. If he had a crush on you and was disappointed then that is sad for him but not your fault.
Would it be possible for the three of you to get together and talk to him, say you are sorry he is hurt but both value his friendship and want to make it as right as it can be?
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