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writes:I'm 25, been married to my wife who's 24, for about 6 months. Everything's been great, and I get on well with her family great too. My wife's brother, who's 22, is gay, and very openly gay, and I'm not homophobic at all. I get on with him well too.Earlier on in the week I came home to find my brother-in-law and my dad sitting on the couch in their underwear kissing one another and my brother-in-law said to my dad that he was sexy. They didn't even hear me come in, they were that engrossed in one another.I felt disgusted, shuddered, and went up to the bathroom to throw up and also to get showered. When I came back downstairs they'd gone - my dad's car wasn't on the driveway any more, just mine.I haven't seen my dad since the incident, and my mum is concerned, as she says he's never disappeared like this before. She feels worried about where he is and is having counselling over the issue.I tried phoning my dad's mobile - no response.This incident has affected my sex life - I want to have sex with my wife but every time I want to have it I just think of that incident and feel so upset. I am unable to cope with the situation, and only feel happy when I'm in work (I work as a producer for a radio show 5 days a week, and sometimes as a presenter if people are off ill or on holiday!)Advice is much appreciated.Steve in Oxford, United Kingdom
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): This is from the faker who is practicing on writing erotica and trying to make people believe that these scenarios are true. What a twit!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): Yes, I think this poster has had similar messages before...my guess is he's had a traumatic gay experience and needs help to get over it.
If that's you, I think many men can say this has happened to them and sometimes feel guilt or confusion. Let me assure you, don't question your manhood on a perverts attempt to victimize you.
You are every bit Man, and straight. Enjoy your new wifes love, let her comfort you through this, and God Bless!
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (24 November 2008):
 There is something strange about this post. Apart from the basic premise of the brother-in-law and father kissing on the couch, which seems strange enough in itself -- the whole thing delivered in an almost impersonal tone, as though the author was more disgusted by what was happening than surprised at his father suddenly turning out gay -- I can't quite figure out this little sequence:
"I haven't seen my dad since the incident, and my mum is concerned, as she says he's never disappeared like this before. She feels worried about where he is and is having counselling over the issue.
I tried phoning my dad's mobile - no response."
If her husband has disappeared, why does she go to counselling and not to the police? And the best the poster can do is to phone his Dad's mobile??!! And the most he can worry about is his sex life?
Come on! This just doesn't sound right!
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reader, taina1980  +, writes (24 November 2008):
I know that anyone can say anything about what they would do or what you shouldve done. this is a very difficult issue... what bothered you the most that your dad may be gay or that he was making out with your bro in-law?... wow I know that so many things must be running thru your head... there is nothing you can do... a father is only one you can completely kick him out of your life or try to work thru this with him when the time is rite though your father is probably very very ashamed and embarrased give him time... when the time I'd rite he will explain to you the how & the why. & vice versa... you probably will never get over what you saw but you will learn to deal & cope with it... as for you & your wife don't allow the actions of others to influence your sex life... your an adult & you can't control who ayone choses to bang out...the beauty of being adult is that we make our own choices & your wife or you shouldnt have to suffer for other peoples choices... ultimately thougg your mom is the one that is most affected & you dad has much explaining to do to the woman he married(if there still married)... my heart goes out to you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): HiConcentrate your love on your new wife....forget everything else on the planet for now and let them get on with their lives , but you get on with yours.
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