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female
age
36-40,
*ear2501
writes:Okay so basically my ex and I have known each other for 10years..we were best mates in school and dated for a bit when we were younger. Then when we were about 20 we both admitted we were in love and soul mates. So for two years we had a great relationship we lived together and had an amazing bond talked about getting married children building our house etc. However, I have always wanted to travel so decided that I would go on a year long round the world trip- He didn't want too because his dreams were focusing on university and career. So we decided we would try make it work long distance. About 5 months into my trip we decided it was too hard and we would just leave it and get back together when I get back if we still felt the same. So he was with other girls and I with guys. We stayed in regular contact and he said that no matter what I was the only girl he could see himself settling down with and getting married and that he would wait for me to come home etc. Meanwhile I met a guy and we travelled around Australia together for 8 months, we agreed it was okay to see other people.So after 18 months traveling I came home and we talked he told me that he still loves me and will always be in love with me but he is at a stage in his life that he doesn't want to be in a serious relationship again but would like to be friends. I'm heartbroken! I know that we wouldn't just pick up where we left off but I thought that our bond was enough to make things work out eventually. I have a feeling he is being like this because I met someone else while traveling and he is punishing me. Because before this he couldn't have made it any clearer that I was the one. I came home to be with him and now I am so confused!Anybody with any ideas what I should do next? Should I leave him be?
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (22 December 2010):
 Just leave him be...
18 months is a long time so try not to think that he's "punishing you" when he may be being genuine and honest with you. Stay friends, but don't have any hidden agenda to win him back over.
Time and friendship may bring you right back to where you were before you left, but at the very least, you'll have kept a close friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): Hi.
May I suggest you wait it out a little bit? Just pretend to be just friends.. And maybe he'll crack eventually.. I sware it still sounds like he has feelings for you...
And if not, it'll take time to heel... There will always be the one for you, and if time tells you it's not him... Then you'll get some one else.. Everyone deserves true love. Which means you do! Take care!
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