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writes:My bf is so mad at me because I went out a few days ago and came home very late...like 6am! However, it was very innocent. My friend and I went to a club. Where we went the clubs don't close til 5am. And also this is my 1st time ever staying out that late. Him, on the other hand, always come home late and I'm not allowed to get upset. Am I wrong? plz some advice. He's not talking to me at all. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): What's good for the goose is good for the gander, but a phone call to let him know you're going to be late probably wouldn't go amiss. You'd like him to do the same, surely?
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reader, Fiona xxx  +, writes (17 June 2008):
 There is a part of most of us who cannot get to sleep until our other half is home safe. I suspect he was worried for your safety, and how you got home etc. He could have been paranoid about thinking you met another guy.
Compromise is the key, to do with how often you go out, and how late.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): You're not wrong. I can see where he is coming from... It's the first time you were out late... It's not in your nature or it's just not what you usually do so he may be a little scared that you did somehting else that was not in your nature.
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He goes out late all the time... For a healthy realtionship there has to be the same rules for both partners. Just talk to him and reasure him that you didn't do anything that he wouldn't approve of. Tell him that if he wants to go out late then you should be able to aswel. Tell him you can understand that he is worried, but there's really nothing to worry about and that you both need the same rules.
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reader, purplecloud03  +, writes (17 June 2008):
 hes just upset coz he didnt know what u got up to...i mean if u said it was innocent then it was i believe u, u did nothing wrong, he is prob just worrying and thinking about what COULD have happened ie with another guy all night...and just ask him what exactly about it upset him and that if it upsets him then mayb he shouldnt b able to do the same thing ie stay out late coz it upsets u? its just a trust thing, u will get thru it its not that big a deal.
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reader, cute angel +, writes (17 June 2008):
 well hun i dont think your wrong..why should boys have all the fun huh haha!!u had a girls night out and u partied out until late i think there is nothing wrong in that..your boyfriend is probably over reacting..considering the fact that this is your first time..i think you should give him a dose of his own medicine..next time he comes late you dont talk to him either ,thats the only way he will realise his stupidity!!all the best..
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