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writes: I'm in a mess. I was in a LDR up until January with a lovely girl. I broke things off as I really felt scared to commit - she was thinking of moving to be nearer me and also I was having doubts. Anyway, after the break, I got in touch again and we remained friends. However that progressed into more and even though I hadn't seen her since December, we texted and there was some progress being made. A few months ago she tried to back off and told me not to contact her anymore as she wanted to move on. I was upset by this and told her so. SO, we continued being friends and were even thinking of meeting up. However, again just a couple months back she tried to back off as really felt that nothing could happen between us, but we did chat and resolve our differences and were still going to meet. A week before I was going to meet her I texted her to say that I did not feel right about seeing her and called the whole thing off. I have not contacted her since and heard nothing from her. I feel like absolute rubbish. I know that perhaps a text was quite bad and I should have phoned her to tell her I wasn't going to meet up with her. I led her to believe that we were going to get back together, she was so excited at the prospect of seeing me. I really have messed it up, I thought that she might have been the one. What do I do? I know that perhaps I should move on as I know she can't forgive me...I can't help but think what might have been had we met...
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reader, ayeshaH  +, writes (25 July 2011):
you need to let it go.
you both want different things. she wants to commit and be in a relationship. you don't seem ready to commit.
its not fair on her to have to wait around.
and she probably won't see in the same way again because you blew her off after leading her on to think you really wanted to be in a relationship with her.
just move on and let her find someone she shares the same feeling with. and you can find someone who wants the same things as you.
xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2011): Between the two of you this has being going round in circles, time to let it go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2011): Well really you can't blame her because as you've acknowledged, your the one who has caused this mess.
Its a shame you didn't figure all this out before yoy let her down as she's probably given up on you now with good reason. I'm afraid you have absolutly no choice but to move on. If you really care for her then don't contact her again, you did her a favour by letting her go. Now she can find someone worthy.
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