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writes:Hi, i got a question on wether i did the right thing, or i dont know what. iv been friends with this girl for 3 years, sleeping with her for the past 6 months, and dating her for the past 2 months. My first relationship ever. We have fun with each other, we laugh lots it was great. After a while i started to, i guess lust for other girls. Wondering what they were like. maybe i could be just as happy with them as i am with my friend, i dont know. I felt stuck in the relationship. So well tonight i broke up with her, it was terriable, she cried, she said she didnt want to, wanted me to stay, she said she did love me. but i managed to go, i feel bad. Cause she really cared for me, and thats all that should matter right. I do care about her a lot, i like her. i dont know what i want though. is this normal. Any insight would be really appreciated, Thanks.
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reader, sexi  +, writes (8 November 2007):
 Hi
You should consider yourself lucky coz to me it seems like she likes you alot. If you felt that you didnt want to be in the relationship, then it would be that you have done the right thing. You should be in the relationship if you dont want to. You said you felt stuck which isnt the feeling that one should have when in a relationship. Basically if you think it was what you wanted then it shouldnt be wrong. I would have advised you to think carefull before breaking up with her however because once the good time is over then you would think back to the meaningful relationship that you once had.
Regards,mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): Well it is normal for you. So yeah at this point in your life this is normal. You can't help feeling the way you feel. You don't want to force it or pretend you feel different.
I dated a guy who sounds a lot like you. And he was 25 or 26 when we dated. I was like 23 or 24. Anyway, I used to run into him all the time at this bar and we would always hang out randomly like that. We hooked up this one time, and had such a great time and I figured he would ask for my number. So the next morning I brought it up and he said that he didn't want my number because he liked the randomness of our 'relationship.'
Well since he didn't get my #, I took it to mean that he wasn't that interested, or that he was a player, so I started dating someone else a week later. And he got pissed off! I heard he was on the verge of crying. Why?? I have no idea! I mean I always thought he liked me that is why I was a bit shocked when he didn't get my #. But how was I supposed to know?? And then his friend told me off!
Just don't be that way with her if she happens to 'rebound' quickly. I mean it is quite ok for you to move on and do your thing. But just be fair about it cause she may move on quickly too.
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