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writes:I have just got out of a LDR which lasted 6 years, at first it felt the right thing to do as the distance between us became too much of a strain, only seeing each other 3 or 4 times a year.We decided to break up in March, everything seemed ok at first but now i miss her so much. She said she wanted some time off from a relationship to get on with her studies but only 3 weeks later she has found a new bf. It's a guy she has known for a while so i'm thinking she broke up with me partly so she could be with him who lives closer.I get really jealous when i read her myspace page, she posts everything she does with him and it's tearing me apart picturing her with him.My work is suffering and i get angry with the smallest of things. I am contanstantly checking her status to see what she is upto, i just wish i could let go. She won't reply to my emails or anything.Lil help :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): yeah... Easier said than done, but you need to let go. Quit going to her myspace. I'd wager she knows you are going there [trackers, anyone?] and is intentionally tailoring that thing to make you jealous. Great confidence booster for her. Otherwise she would have her profile set to private. No, she WANTS you to know the various intimate details of her new relationship. She gets off on it.
Just STOP going to her myspace, whatever you do. But if you ABSOLUTELY must go to her myspace, go through a myspace unblocker site first. It masks your IP so you cannot be traced. Just google "unblock myspace" and you will see several sites.
As to winning her back, if she is not answering any of your emails, texts, calls or what not, then that is not a good sign. You have to ease up on her for a while. If she ever gets back at you, then you could be back in business. But ease up for a while.
Good luck buddy
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): every day is a new day. There are 6 billion ppl in the world. Or as they say "other fish in the sea"
It sucks. I feel bad for you but. She has moved on. you should too. I know you feel like this will never end and it tears you apart. But unless you can live where she is. LDR usually don't work out. I'd write her a heartfelt letter. you have nothing left to lose at this point. She may write back and tell you how she feels or she may say she has moved on. If that is the case. I would move on. Every day will get a little better. And in a month or two you won't hurt so much. I have been in your shoes. Trust me.
take care. and good luck.
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