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writes:i just broke up with my girlfriend.... and she is taking it too seriously..... i tried to explain the reason why i am breaking up with her but she wouldn't listen to me.... the reason why we broke up was because she was always getting hurt anytime we are togther... its either someone says something bad about us or something bad does happen to us..........the reason why i broke up with her was to prevent her from being hurt and now i am afraid she might do something bad? i am responsible if ever something bad happens to her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2007): Why would you leave her because of what other people think or due to bad things happening. Bad things happen to everyone, you should work through it together. If breaking up with her hurt her so bad then it's not better than her being hurt by what someone said. She probably can shake off what people say or work through hard times easily. But she won't recover easily from broken heart, especially since she won't have you to lean on. Sounds like you broke up as an easy way for you to avoid a problem instead of having to face it. If you care about her you wouldn't abandon her. I lost a great woman once because I was to stupid to realize that I loved her. I still think about her all the time and regret losing her.
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reader, livi  +, writes (31 March 2007):
 hey there,
hmm tricky, you cant control her feelings or emotions, but you could help her, it obviously wasnt meant to be but that doesnt mean you cant still be good friends, be there for her as a person and listen to what she has to say. good luk Xx
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (31 March 2007):
 You can't live her life, and you can't accept responsibility for the outcomes. That being said, I think you tried to take on a little too much responsibility for those outcomes when you decided to break up with her in the first place for the reasons you gave.
If you really like her, what the heck do you care what other people said about the two of you? Is it that important, that you would give her up because of it? And "something bad does happen to us". What is that supposed to mean? Did meteors fall out of the sky and hit you on the head every day?
My guess is that you broke up with her because for some reason YOU wanted out of the relationship. Think about that and be honest.
Now about her hurting herself. If you were with her for a while, you probably know someone close to her (family or close friend) well enough to talk to them about the situation. Just go to them and let them know that you are worried about the state of mind of your ex. Enlist their aid in trying to get her to seek professional help to be sure that she is OK through this difficult period. That's all you can do.
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