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writes:Ok... I recently broke things off with my newborn son's father. I found out he was up to no good. I'm a little uneasy because he has a very dark side to him. I am hoping that I never have to deal with him and that he will stay as far away from us as possible. I feel like I have to watch my back and I hate that feeling. I have not said anything to my family about my fear because I don't want to stir things up. Please advise me on what should I do for the best and safety of my son and my family. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk I'm not exactly sure how this site works... My family are aware that we are no longer together. The saying mama knows best is very true. My mother senced he was no good even said things that are like "wow" to me now! But I dont want to say that im afraid. He has a long police record that I recently found out about. He is cabable of hurting me. I was about 5months pregnant he threatend that he would have some b**** jump me. I belive he might be bipolar. I tried to help him but it was like a game to him, so he tries to put a front and says he dosent care about life. He likes to drink a lot he says its his way to damage himself more. I went as far as getting a sponcer for him. He threatens suicide before on a daily basis. Asked him to get a counsler. As far as I know thats all he does is drink, dont know if he takes any other kind of drugs. I dont know for sure if he will hurt me because I was really good for him by that I mean I was patient and did not allow him to get the best of me but he has a really dark side and I just hope I can take control like I have been, he is the jealous type and gets the wrong ideas and says nasty things including my father and brothers. And to make matters worse I have a toddler with another man and is very jealous about that. I have put myself in a very bad situation and Im very upset at myself for this but right know I have to focus on making things right. He also has another kid with someone else. He has family but they are all screwd up in the head also.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you! In fact that is what I have been doing.
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reader, banjopicker +, writes (10 September 2010):
Your family and friends need to know your concerns. You need their support. God forbid anything should happen to you or your child, but if it does, authorities will need information. If your gut tells you to beware, then beware and cautious. You shouldn't have to live in fear. Don't let him shake you up. The more he gets away with the more he will do to you. Stay away, get rid of mutual aquaintences, and if you must confront him never do it alone or with the baby present. Put a stop to this now!
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reader, kgarren +, writes (10 September 2010):
Seeing how you haven't revealed what it is exactly that is so dark about him, it is hard to know what the best advice is, but it is always helpful to tell your family! should there be a time when something happens to you or your son, then they will know what happened, or they can provide you some kind of protection
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (10 September 2010):
I would recommend talking to your family and friends about this. I don't really know how your ex is or what you think he will do, but to keep you and your child safe, and for your peace of mind, you should have people that know what's going on. If you really fear for your safety, you could get a restraining order. Again, I don't know your situation or your ex. Also, if you have someone else watching the baby when you aren't there, you should let them know that he is not allowed in or anywhere near him. Otherwise, they might let him access your son.
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