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51-59,
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writes:Hi My boyfriend and I had a huge fight over someone saying I said something about him that i didnt. he is feeling a little off right now and paranoid as his x wife and him are fighting custardy after his 13 year old daughter saying she wanted to live with her dad and his x saying she has been gathering things against him for years. so he dont trust me. I was really hurt and broke into his house to get my stuff as he dumpt me. Stupid I know i was drunk dont have a criminal record and had never done anything like this before. It was there mums weekend but his 18 year old son was there, which I didnt know I knocked over his fish tank and dropped his daughter helmet, ( I didnt mean to. The police arrested me. This was 2 weeks ago so I wrote 3 letters saying I was sorry brought Hollie a new helmet and gave Josh the money for his fish. said I was sorry and as they grow they will see we all make mistakes we are ashamed of, that i was ashamed, sorry and I loved them. Karl just sent me a text say fuckin well done Hollie is now crying and Josh says he dont care, he dont want me anywhere near him his sister or his dad. Now I know Karl loves me we have never felt like this and are 41, my kids are grown but understand he is now going to protect them. I didnt just right letters I asked advise and worded them nicely. If it was just Karl I know he would forgive me. We were ment to be married this year. What do I do I have been a fool and messed things right up but because I love him so much I was really hurt.. there is also a catch 22. I have not been able to see out of my right eye for over a year now test have taken a long time but on friday I found out why. Karl was in a bad mood from arguing with his x and said he didnt care if he took me to the hospital or not, then he said so anything. I though he has enough on right now so just told him a have a mass on my optic nerve. It cancer and after my first cycle last week I can not do it alone I need him but he needs to be there for his kids. the hospital wrote me a letter for the police as a mass in the brain courses depression, anger basically it makes you blow everything out of proportion. I want to tell him but even if we got back together I do not know if it would be sympathy or if he could cope in the 4 days I have my meds as he is looking after his daughter. what do i do help please Im falling apart I never felt like this before the pain is amazing and I know he feels the same.Louisa
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (17 March 2011):
 If Karl is a real man who still loves you he will come to your aid as soon as he learns about the cancer.
Unless of course, you have a history of doing these sorts of ill though, impulsive things. He should give you the benefit of the doubt that perhaps you were not yourself, and that the mass could have been affecting your better judgement.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (17 March 2011):
 Focus on yourself. You ruined what you had. It's tragic that it happened during a terrible time in your life, but you've got to forget him for now.
Is there anyone else you can lean on, parents, friends, etc.? I suggest you go there. You've got bigger concerns than this relationship. Set your priorities in the right direction.
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