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female
age
30-35,
*uckyhelp
writes:Hey guys, need a bit of help. 5 months ago my ex left me and i was devasted, we had been together for a year and a half, and i found it hard to become stable as i couldnt do anything without being reminded of him and bursting into tears.Well, since then ive had about 3 boyfriends and then having a "relationship" of about a week. Cause i was still in love with my ex.This time i did so wrong, i know i did, my most recent boyfriend(whom i dumped today) is completely in love with me, and has a horrible home life. Now i feel i have added to his terrible life by dumping him. He doesnt kno it was cause of my feelings for my ex, as i dont want to hurt him even more.He has been pleading, crying and beging all day for me to be with him again, and i must admit, i have been swayed to take the easy route to make him happy and go back with him. But i havnt as my ex wants to give us another go. But we arnt going to be together officialy so soon as i do not want to hurt the other boy so much.I just dont kno how long to wait before i can be with my ex and how i can cope/help my ex get over me. I know u guys will say time, but he is pleading with me. what am i to do?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 December 2009):
1). Don't go out with any other guys until you're over your ex. That's not fair on the other guys.
2). Don't take this guy back, because you'll only hurt him more.
3). Don't ever go back to your ex. If he loved you, he would be with you.
Those are the steps you need to take. In the meantime, spend more time focusing on yourself and your life. Find hobbies, go out with friends and just focus on yourself. You don't need all this at your age. Have fun with friends instead!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): You're way too young to be having this much drama in your life. Good grief.
I think you're just going to have to deal with the pleading. You're the one that led him on, and you should have never been in a relationship with him in the first place.
Why are you getting back together with your other ex?! He'll probably dump you again, because if he really loved you and wanted to be with you, he wouldn't have dumped you in the first place. Good luck with that.
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