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41-50,
*licia
writes:I am feeling so sorry for myself at the moment. A while back while I was in an unhappy relationship I met someone, a man and we became friends. I gave him the impression that I was in an unhappy relationship and just didn’t know how to get out. Well we became great friends and I would visit him at his home. Then we both realized we liked each other and one day when I was at his home we kissed and after that kissing was a regular thing. But of coarse I was in another relationship so I told him to let me end my unhappy relationship and then we can give us a try. He didn’t want to wait so it ended there. I remained in my unhappy relationship for another year. Then I ended my unhappy relationship but when I told him (the other guy friend) he kind of changed his tone and said” so what do you want me to say”. I didn’t want him to say anything; I was actually just making conversation. We started hanging out together again until now and we have become real best friends. The problem is I think I still have feelings for him. I think I love him so much. Every time he tells me about his relationships or that he is in a relationship it hurts me deeply even though we still talk and I haven’t told him how I feel. I keep wishing he was mine and wish he would love me back. When his relationships end I am happy that he is single even though I feel bad for him if you know what I mean. I just want him to be mine but I don’t think he feels the same. I think he thinks we are friends that’s it, we had our chance and I blew it. I really care for him. How can I change my feelings towards him so that I can be a friend without feeling the hurt that comes with loving him? I don’t want to stop talking to him. I don’t know….please help….
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2008): im candice and im 16
I thing you should tale him how you fill
cos if u nevere tale him you will just
be more and more hurt each day
from candice
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): did you try telling him how you feel? You don't seem to really know how he feels about you. If you let him know and ask him directly if he thinks there is a chance you'll be better prepared to know what you're dealing with. In the even he wants to be only friends and you agree, watch the movie "My Best Friend's Wedding"
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reader, Ed1337  +, writes (29 September 2008):
 You really need to tell him how you feel, if he does only want to be friends then atleast you know for certain and can move on with your life, instead of thinking about a future you may never have.
If you are inlove with him and he does only want to be your friend, it might be better for you to cut contact with him, I know you still want to talk to him, but your just going to make it harder to get over him. I thought I could still talk to someone I was crazy about, but all my feelings for that person just kept flooding back every time I had a chat with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): plzzz donot feel upset about it.
i think the best thing you can do is by telling him ur truly feelings. plzz do it.
i am sure he will appreciate it.
because u both are as u said really good friends . so take a chance or maybe u might again loose another oppurtunity.
GOOD LUCK XXX
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