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writes:me and my boyfriend has been dating over a year. but we broke up on monday.caue this girl that is real obsessed with him was always causing drama, she told him that she wished i was not with him, so she could be with him and that she was going to do anything she could to be with him. Ayway she started her drama again she was telling me that he wasnt telling me the truth about somethings. when i know that he has told me everything. he told me when she would text him and what she would say. well every time she starts telling me stuff i believe it. monday she was telling me stuff and i was believing it and my boyfriend said he couldn't handle the drama anymore it was stressing him out at work and at school. so he broke up with me. we still talk everyday because we have a daughter together. the thing is. he said that we both needed a rest from the relationship and not rush into things like we always do when we break up. he said we needed time to think about how we are gonna make the relationship work. he said that we was still going to go christmas shopping and spend christmas together and that i was still getting me new years kiss but we wouldnt be together as boyfriend and girlfriend he said that he wanted to see how things go and to see if things get better. he said i wasnt really supportive like i should be as a girlfriend. i never tell him lets go do this or lets go eat here or whatever and he said i would always get mad when he hungout with his friends, also we spent the night with eachother everday for almost 3 months we seen each other everyday for almost 3 months, he said he was getting tired of seeing me since we seen each other all the time and we did the same things over and over every day. so i asked him he said he wanted us to live together when he graduated school so i asked if he cant stand to see me everyday now how will we live together. and he said because by then he wont be so tired from going to school and working cause he said i want to keep him awake all night when he's really tired and has work or school or both. he also said he always makes the decisions and its not supposed to be like that. he said that a relationship is for two people to make choices not just one. my best friend her boyfriend is a jerk he'll comment on other girls facebook pictures and stuff and my best friend said that my boyfriend/now ex, is probably gonna do the same thing her boyfriend did. he told her they needed a break and he went and had sex with lots of girls and then when he went back to her... so what am asking is what do i do? do i wait for him cause i love him or do i give up on the relationship and move on? please no rude comments saying we need to give our baby up for adoption im 18 and he is 19 he works and supports our baby and goes to school. and i go to school and enrolling in vet school.. so dont say we are immature and need to find out baby a better home
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2011): BULLCRAP.You don't settle for a non commitment but still act like a couple- conflicting messages. Still shop as a couple? Still Spend Christmas together? Still a New Years Kiss?QUESTION: What was BF like, his commitment to you before and faithfulness for you to Believe this other young woman?Right? So how about some local FREE counselling. There is always agencies that offer their counselling for free or on a sliding scale. To get closure and learn how to communicate to one another, LISTEN to one another, heal, recover from past hurts. Also how to come up with an US plan on problem solving and how to make OUR FAMILY CHARTER- Promises you both make to one another and FRAME IT WITH A PHOTO OF YOU and DAUGHTER.Example. We are a Loving Family. We strive to always put the other First when it comes to Friendship, Listening, and Living. We will honour one another and not let ANYONE or ANYTHING come between us. We are Everything that matters in this World. We are a Family- We, BF and You names, Love and Honour One Another and will work together to Keep Our Family Together- FOREVER. Mean it! Live it! Sign it! Put it where you see it everyday when you enter your home.What BF should be doing is stopping all contact with this Chick. Change cell number or black list her number and texts. Dont engage in 'friendly' anything with her. With you at his side, he needs to tell her off! You both need to stand as a WE against this stalker/bully.If she persists, contact authorities, Document contacts, texts, emails, calls.Your BF needs to CHOOSE. He needs to say its you, him, your child, WE, OUR FAMILY need to stay united against ANY outside influences that attack OUR LOVE, OUR HOME, OUR COMMITMENT to One Another.Then you can do the Christmas Together, the shopping, the New years Kiss.Counselling, Commitment in WRITING, Acting on family charter, living it, doing things for the other. Daily.GOAL: New Years Eve Kiss With a Wiser, Stronger Family with outside influences remaining outside of Home, Relationship. Even to the point of restraining order if need be. COUNSELLING.Hang In there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2011): Hello there i am actually knew on here and i read your question on here i had similar problem with yours and i never knew what i could do i told this story to my family and friend cos i really do love this guy and i never wanted to loose him,during my search for a way out i met a friend of mine who had similar problem and introduced me to a man who helped him with his situation,on getting to the man i discoversd he was a spell caster i was shocked because i have not had anything to do with a spell caster in my entire life so i tried to give this man a chance cos i never believed in spell casting as i thought it will not work for me but to my surprise i got positive results and i was able to get my man back from her even after the spell caster did all i discovered my man fell much more in love with me on like before so i was so happy that i never know what to do for him so i am using this opportunity to tell anyone on this site having smilar problem visit kathyperry81 at y a h o o dot com..i am sure he will help you..
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2011): Hello there i am actually knew on here and i read your question on here i had similar problem with yours and i never knew what i could do i told this story to my family and friend cos i really do love this guy and i never wanted to loose him,during my search for a way out i met a friend of mine who had similar problem and introduced me to a man who helped him with his situation,on getting to the man i discoversd he was a spell caster i was shocked because i have not had anything to do with a spell caster in my entire life so i tried to give this man a chance cos i never believed in spell casting as i thought it will not work for me but to my surprise i got positive results and i was able to get my man back from her even after the spell caster did all i discovered my man fell much more in love with me on like before so i was so happy that i never know what to do for him so i am using this opportunity to tell anyone on this site having smilar problem visit kathyperry81 at y a h o o dot com..i am sure he will help you..
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