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writes: ok my current bf (17)(and i am 16) thought i was going to dump him so he went to my best friend and told her he had feelings for her then when she told him she had feelings for him too he said he was staying with me. but that is only the beginning the only reason i found out was because i was messing with his phone and saw her text and then his text back. but when i confronted him about it he didn't tell me the full story well either that or my best friend was lying wihich wouldn't surprise me. they were both in the wrong but i don't know what to do. me an my bf have been together for almost 6months and i really love him. and he says he loves me and that he is super sorry what should i do? i have forgiven them but told them both i don't trust them more than i could throw them and that says alot considering i am only 5 foot 2. i won't break up with him but can i get some ideas for me to move on emotionally and mentally? signed confused:)
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reader, kforson  +, writes (12 December 2008):
Girl you are 17. You are probably still in high school. I would be willing to bet a lot of money he is not going to be the love of your life. If you can not trust your best friend any farther than you can throw her then why is she your best friend. I wouldnt say dump her as a friend but best friends are for real maybe you should remove the "best" status and move her down a couple categories. And maybe you should stop being exclusive with what's his name and see what else is out there. Tell him that you want to date other people as well. That text didnt mean nothing it meant something. Obviously there is no trust there so open yourself up to try new things and to meet new people.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (31 May 2006):
 Well I think the only way you can move on is to found out which one of them is lying! Unless you do its always going to be there, the wondering and the disappointment and indeed some doubt. In any relationship you need trust, and you obviously dont have that at the moment. You need to ask your boyfriend exactly what happend and why before you can even begin to decide whats right for you. If he wont tell you or continues to lie, then you are never going to sit right in this relationship, and it will just get harder the longer it goes on as the doubt that you have hanging now will not be resolved.
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reader, camille +, writes (31 May 2006):
 I'm not sure you can move on emotionally or mentally if you're still with him. The 2 people closest to you went behind your back and you're hurt. You say you forgive them which is a good step for you (and lucky for them) but why do you want to stay with a guy who has feelings for your best friend? Why are you best friends with someone who told your boyfriend she had feelings for him? It doesn't matter who said what first and why, they both betrayed your trust (although it sounds like you don't trust her anyway which again makes me wonder why you're freinds?). How can you have a relationship with anyone if you don't trust them? Where do their loyalties lie? With you or each other? If you don't trust them I can't see you staying with both of them. I can only sense that you will fall out with one or both of them. If he only told your friend he liked her cos he thought you were going to dump him, why pick her? That's a bit cruel to both you girls. Maybe break up with him and if it's meant to be, you'll find your way back together when he's learnt the meaning of respect.......Maybe you can only move on if you do exactly that and leave him behind!
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