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writes:I have been in a 2 1/2yr affair with a married man. He is everything I have ever wanted. I didn't go looking for this, it just happened as if it were meant to be. He told me from the start, his marriage was broken due to infidelity,but he never left due to a child. He says he doesn't have sex nor sleep with the wife anymore and loves me and speaks of our future. We spend everday/wkends together except for major holidays, he stays at home,but calls me,but it is a short call. I believe he is telling me the truth about everything. I have spoke to him before about breaking the relationship off,he gets sick to his stomach and so do I and we fall back into each other. So here we are still going on strong, yet I am losing strength . I am worried it has gone on too long, and that things are never going to change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2008): I have been in your shoes. I feel like you were telling my story. I was with a married man for a year and a half and he did not want to leave because of his son. Then when I told him how hard it was for me he got his act togehter and within 3 months left her. We are so happy together and just got engaged on Christmas. Tell him how hard it is and that you cant do it anymore if he relly wants to be with you he will leave her just be openand honest with him. Moderator's Note:Personal email addresses are not accepted for publication. If you wish to correspond with a questioner, register with the site and send private messages through the site system.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2008): SO SAD
I totally agree with Ponungalungb you are just being strung along if he truly loved you he would be with you. The baby is being used as an excuse, he just wants to have you or something on the side. And keep his loving wife whom he has a child with, and his home and you well when he is bored you are just there. No sympathy here you know he is married and you are willing to ruin a family..another woman's happiness for your selfish needs he belongs to someone else was never yours get it.......NO SYMPATHY HERE SORRY
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): I can see why you are waiting for him, im in a similar situation, ive been seeing someone who i am in love with and he says he loves me, but he has a girlfriend who he says he hates but he only stays there for his kids, but if he really loves me surely he would leave her, and the same with you. what we have to think is actions speak louder than words, so if they mean what they say they need to do the right thing and leave the mrs....
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (7 January 2008):
 If he has not left her by now, he is never going to. You are too old to be waiting for him, and young enough to start your own family with someone else.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (6 January 2008):
 Talk is cheap. If he wanted you, he'd leave his wife to be with you. You say his marriage was broken because of infidelity. Whose, his or his wife's?
I've seen this scnerio too many times. It always plays out the same way: The mistress is always the second banana. . . and you're kidding yourself if you think it will change.
Move on.
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reader, AJ jess ^..^  +, writes (6 January 2008):
 hes obviously not going to leave his wife, he has a child and seems to me to not have a prospect to give that up to live with you just remember that there obviously is a chid involved and any actions you may take may drastically change its life x
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