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writes:Hi I am 18 years old My boyfriend is 24 We first started dating when I was only 13 After almost five years together He changed and I knew something was wrong I kind of knew he was cheating I believe that us women just know that kind of things we get that feeling and we just know. Anyway's it turned out to be true he was indeed with another women about 8 years older then him with a kid. When I found out I broke up with him There are no words to explain how hurt I was.They continued to have a relationship they moved in together and she got pregnant all in about 4 months of being openly together. Through out that whole time he never stopped texting me I never answered him yet he continued to text me telling me he was sorry that he still loved me and could not get me out his head no matter how hard he tried to move on and be happy with this women he just couldn't. Long story short they broke up and some how along the way we started talking again and I forgave him. Because I still loved him and in part I felt him cheating was in some way my fault because through out all that time I never had sex with him And I feel he must care about me because he stayed around for five years even so. And I am very sure that during that time that was the only time he cheated we have been together for six months now we are still working on rebuilding trust he is more loving and caring now then he ever was he is a lot more open with his emotions he tells me what he feels when he feels it when before he would just keep everything bottled up He says that he loves me and is 100% sure that I'm the one he wants to be with for the rest of his life He is talking about marriage and kids after I finish college! The problem is my mother she doesn't want anything to do with him says he is just playing with me and is a jerk So my question is she right am I just blinded by love is a cheater always a cheater or is it possible that he loves me and has really changed??? Sorry for making it so long I just need other people's intake of all this THANK YOU!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yeah is a real long story we know each other since I was about 4 years old Our families lost touch and we didn't see each other again until 7 years latter! He hasn't deserted anyone he supports his son entirely money wise He is a great father even though the child is only 4 months old now he still takes him home on the weekends and takes very good care of him! My mother has never really gotten to know him she started to dislike him really after everything happened and she saw me get depressed and what not! We are an odd couple have been the exception to many things I just want to believe we can be the exception one more time!! Still thank you all for your answers!
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (4 February 2010):
 Trust your mother. Always.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 February 2010):
Wake up. He cheated on you and had a baby with another woman. He doesn't love you, and your mother is right. He is a jerk. Let's face it, he deserted this other woman and the baby.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (4 February 2010):
 So, a 18 yr old started dating a 13yr old.
You lost me right there.
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (4 February 2010):
 I'm sorry Honey but I am going with your Mum on this one. Once a cheater always a cheater. Mothers normally know best and she has him sussed. I am sure you love him and can forgive him for the reasons you have come up with but look at his track record. He was with you and then cheated and has now left this lady presumably with a baby. You don't want this to be you. At 18 you have your whole life ahead of you and can meet literally hundreds of men with no baggage who will be there just for you.
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