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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey. I’d really like someone else’s prospective on this. It’s driving me mad!I’ve been msning a mutual friend for a year and a half ish and I’ve fallen for him. He’s the first person I’ve ever really liked and I don’t know why I like him. I’m really fussy when it comes to men and I’m a very ‘one person for life’ sort. I truly believe there’s someone for everyone and I can’t imagine being with someone unless he is the ‘one.’I’ve tried to shake this feeling for him but I’ve finally accepted that I like him. I have no idea how he feels. We’re very shy around each other in person and only really talk on msn unless we’re out and more confident. At those times we spend a lot of time together. I don’t think he notices stuff but he does and asks me about it later on msn. He remembers details about me and likes to tell me stuff about himself, e.g. where he lives, his number. He speaks to me on msn for hours every day usually and we talk about anything. He’s told me he has a problem with shyness and he knows I’m the same. We catch each other’s eye quite often and there are times when it feels like we avoid looking at each other and then look at the same time. But then he fancies one of my best friends, who he’s also a very close friend to. Everyone can see this. She has a boyfriend who he’s quite good friends with and there are a lot of other people who fancy her as well. He’s one of the main ones though. I know that she sees him as a brother. He told me that she’s practically his sister but I think that’s more how her boyfriend sees it. Either way, it’s obvious he likes her. No one’s picked up on anything between me and him. So I think he just sees me as a friend.What do you think? I can’t make a fair judgement of it all and I’m angry with myself for liking him. Please help.
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reader, brigid.imagine  +, writes (5 March 2010):
 First i would say, yes even with your shyness, try to flirt with him and see what response you get. Even better if in person rather than msn. Or take the plunge and tell him you like him, if you get rejected, atleast you can say you tried.
As for your best friend, if she's unavailable and he claims to love her as a sister.. Then how were you to know there was some suppressed feelings there, if there are any? Sounds really frustrating though, goodluck to you!
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