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41-50,
*achele
writes:I asked my husband for a break as he is always out. I want him home and he says I'm not coming home. I ask is he ever coming home and his reply is I don't know what the future holds. He wants me to move on but I can't until I hear the words I'm never coming home. I am heart broken as he has found a 20 year old, he is 35, will it last?How do I get him to see that I am so sorry as I have said a lot of nasty things out of anger and he has said nasty things to me too.
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reader, amber1205  +, writes (25 February 2008):
you should tell him that u 2 should take a brake for a couple of weeks u could even stay in the same house just dont act or say ur lovers idk if u cook nd clean but only cook 4 urself nd clean only wat u dirty soon he will relize all u do 4 him dont even talk 2 him or u can be like him nd find a diffrent lover if he's jelous he obviously still has feelings for u i hope my advice works just try 2 move on
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008): It sounds like you are both very confused and have both said some nasty things to each other. You are both at fault and you did ask him for a break. I'm not saying that he didn't deserve it, but that is not something that married couples do. You either live together or you split up.
Only the 2 of you can decide if you have any good future together. If you feel there is no happy future with him, then just move on as best you can. If you think that things can be patched up and get better, then just go out and have fun and if he wants to come back to you then talk to him about it at great length and determine if you think it will work from now on.
Don't just wait for him. Show him that you can do just fine without him so that he does not think that you are in need of him. If he sees that you have no need for him then he will be more willing to change to be good to you. And you both have to work to control your emotions if you do get together again. Yes, we all say things we shouldn't, but we have to work to keep that at a minimum and learn to apologize if something slips out.
Good luck whichever way you decide to go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008): Hi Hunny
I agree with waterloo do you want him back sweetheart, He has treated you with no respect and he has found someone so quickly he is no hot catch love you need to get your self esteem back and realise that the age of this other girl has nothing to do with you its him and the fact he has not grown up yet love
http://www.selfesteem4women.com/index.php
You deserve to be treated with respect for the beautiful woman you are hunny MESSAGE ME ANYTIME TAKE CARE LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008): Why do you want him back when he has been with someone else? Old goods, no way would i have him back. You say you both have said horrible things to each other, then maybe this is the end. Just run like hell and make a new start for yourself. Dont give him the opportunity to come back or he will be back and forth all of your lives. Just be strong and move on.
take care
xx
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reader, emsy0002005  +, writes (25 February 2008):
your husband seems to have moved on im sorry i know it sounds harsh but if he truley loved you he would never have gone let alone started a realionship with someone else you should give yourself a big shake and take this as an oppertunity to start a fresh
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (25 February 2008):
 I am sorry for what you are going through.
If he is the one for you , he will come back to your side. Men are creatures of habit.They would prefer to do things the usual and same way.They will missed all those familiar things.
Give him some time. That relationship could just be a rebound and may not last .
You cannot undone what happened in the past . You can be nice to him and tell him that you are sorry for what you said about him .
You should not appear to be needy or clingy to him.It could turn him off .
Build up your confidence and self esteemed. Get a make over and go out and have fun. When he see you having fun or with a man , he will come running back to you.
Good Luck!
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