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writes: I asked my boyfriend if he'd like to have a threesome. He said it's one of his fantasies, but that he wouldn't try it, because I'd get too jealous and because he'd be too jealous if I asked for an MFM.I asked what would he do if I wasn't the jealous type and that I can guarantee that I wouldn't want an MFM. He said he would like it then. I asked why, he said it was something of a guy thing, to know he candle such a situation and to feel like a macho.Does this mean my boyfriend would like to have sex with other girls?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2008): I have this same problem. I mentioned to my boyfriend about the idea of having to 'cute girls', myself and my friend, give him the attention he should get. Unfortunately I was not sober and this conversation happen through a cell phone while I was out of town. Needless to say, the next morning after waking up to the strongly detailed convo still embeded into my head, I was a mess. I confided to him the next day and he felt so terrible and was stronly afraid that this would be the end of our very long relationship. I feel as if mentioning the 'threesome' idea sets the bar up high for everything that follows next. You get this feeling of not being everything your love wants to be completely in 'bliss'. To be honest, it is just a woman's conception that all men are constantly thinking with their williys, but that's not always the case. Most of us fantasize about a variety of things we wouldn't want our men to think about it in their own scenario, but we're only human.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): I don't know if it means he wants to have sex with other women. I mean I guess he does, but it probably crosses the minds of all men, even those in relationships. The truth of the matter is that there are certain stuff you just shouldn't ask about, because you are not going to want to know the answer. Sometimes ignorance is bliss. I mean no intelligent woman is stupid enough to think that her bf doesn't think of other women(as long as its in a respectful manner and you don't know about it). But most intelligent women know not to ask or to even think about it. As long as your bf treats you like a queen, then you just shouldn't ask about stuff that might cause conflict. Every single guy you date or meet is pretty much the same in terms of how often they think of sex and a bunch of other stuff that crosses their mind that you probably don't want to know about. Just accept that he is human, and so is his brain and so are his fantasies, and as long as he treats you fantastically, then there really is no need to dig that deep in his brain. Let him save those types of conversations for when he is with his buddies.
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reader, pyan  +, writes (12 February 2008):
Himost guys if they are truthfull would like to have a FFM 3- some. its only when you get older are you willing to have a MMF 3-some. now i prefer it that way.why do you want a 3-some, is it for you or your b/f? be carefull as when we had our first 3-some it took quite a while to get over it.if you are going to do it be sure its what you both want and watch out for the green monster.message if you want more info
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reader, red1982  +, writes (12 February 2008):
I think that this is a common fantasy that men have. I don't think it necessarily means that physically he would like to sleep with other women it just seems a good thought in his head.
We all have fantasies and not all of mine feature my husband - but that does not mean that I want to sleep with other people for real, just in my head.
At the end of the day he loves you and wants to sleep with you. So don't let insecurity get in the way of that. Trust him and don't let this conversation turn into a big row. Draw a line under it and focus on some other fantasy that you can do together.
And a piece of marriage advice I was given has stood me in good stead sex life wise is 'if you want your husband to come home to the same woman every night be a different woman every night' dress up, try new things and surprise him every now and then.
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