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writes:Hi im 22 male and theres a girl 33, we're both single and both work together on the same shifts so we see each other quite a bit. For the past month or so I've heard from other friends at work she wants to go on a date with me but she hasn't said anything to me or give me any obvious signs. I've been texting her but Its just been general conversation. We were on a work night out last weekend, we were both pretty drunk and we started kissing. It all seemed to be going well most of the night we were together. Then the next time at work, a couple of days later she was acting like nothing had happened just continuing normally. I left It a couple of days then bit the bullet when I thought the time was right, I asked her if she would like to go for something to eat and a few drinks one evening. I fully understand she is very busy as she has her own tanning business aswell as working part time. She came straight out with "I'll text you a bit later to let you know for deffo" and that was that. Later on she did text me saying she did have plans for that night but also said she was "a bit taken aback today when you asked" I won't see her now for about 10days since I'm on holiday. What do you make of her response? Should I use them 10days as a cooling off period and ask again when I next see her or just leave it on her to get back to me? It's really eating into me and affecting me like I never thought it would! Thanks
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (10 July 2012):
 It sounds to me like she's just not interested. By all means ask her for a final time, but i think you already know her answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2012): Yeah just chill dude she's just one of many billions of women in this world, sounds fine other than the very bad idea it is to get with a work colleague.
Other than that it seems grand, be casual about this you know? Like you could take or leave her. Give her another message when you get back and are actually free to be able to see her.
Look you've shown your interest in her, so she knows you're interested now the ball is in her court a bit, basically that could well have been a blow off and if not and she's really interested she'll at least send a "how are you text?" and open the door for you to ask her out again.
Regardless of whether she does or not ask her out again when you get back but not straight away and do it in person again, if she's busy again then she's not interested and whatever you do, do not turn around an ask her what night she would be free.
If she blows you off again then just let it go. Only ever give a girl a two tries, more than that and she'll think you're a pest or she's just far too much work. If again your timing was just poor and she really is busy that evening then she'll suggest a day she's free, again though OP, play it cool. If she says she's busy don't counter that by asking when is she free, that sounds desperate.
just forget about her for the next 10 days and enjoy your holiday. The ball is in her court as regards contact most girls will at least send a text to keep you interested.
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