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anonymous
writes:Am i a horrible person for doing this to someone, i don't know if it's even a worth point now of fixing it?I met this guy a while ago and he asked me out, but I had so much going on I didn't have time to especially as I met him a few days before I was leaving the country to go stay with my friend so I needed to pack and get ready for that. Anyways, I said can we go out when i'm back and that I would message him when I am.Anyways, I have been back a few days now and still haven't messaged him because if i'm honest, I forgot about him and that I was supposed to until today when looking through my phone! I was only gone for a week, but thinking about it now he may of met someone else and I don't want a relationship, or even to go on a date, or get involved with a guy. I just want time to myself and i know if i message him saying i'm back, he will ask me out again and I don't want to be horrible and say no, or go on the date leading him on knowing I don't want anything or that I'm not attracted to him like that.I don't know what to do, should I go on the date? Or should I even message him letting him know I'm back, chances are he may have forgotten that I was supposed to i don't know. I just don't know what to do, I feel horrible either way.... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2012): It's rather simple OP, just message him tell him you're messaging him because you said you would but that you also don't want him to get wrong impression but you're not really in him and don't want to lead him and wish him well.
Or you could do what most girls do when they're not interested and chicken out of being honest by either ignoring him until he gets the message or go on a date because you "don't want to hurt his feelings".
I say woman up and tell the guy the truth.
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