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writes:My girlfriend and I are having sex. I fear that I am becoming addicted to sex, and not caring about other things about her. I love my girlfriend very much. I also love to please her, and really don't want to stop having sex with her. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (10 April 2007):
 If you are having sex and NOT doing other things, the real solution is to start doing other things. Instead of meeting where you can have sex easily (where you live), plan to get together somewhere else and do something together for an afternoon or evening. See a movie. Go for a walk in the park. Go to a museum or the library. Whatever appeals to the two of you. Or try something new. Just so it's out in public. Even if you're living together, you can still plan to meet somewhere else when one or the other of you is out and about.
Make this a regular thing. Make a "date night" one evening a week, when you go out in public and do something together.
That doesn't necessarily mean you don't end up in the sack eventually on those nights. But if you're doing other stuff too, you are proving to yourself and to your girl that there are things in your life besides just sex, and that sometimes these things can come BEFORE the sex.
Oh, and another good thing is to take her to a quiet restaurant somewhere and talk to her. Get her to tell you something about herself that you don't already know. Who her third grade teacher was, or what her favorite Christmas present was when she was little, or just anything like that. Then you do the same. What's her favorite vegetable? There's so much you don't know about her, it's frightening. Get to know her. Communicate. There's a whole exciting person just waiting to be discovered there, and she's ALL YOURS. What a great adventure!
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reader, pfairypepper +, writes (10 April 2007):
Ha, sounds like you guys have a great sex life. Maybe just tone it down though, take a break. If you both agree to it, take a week off of sex. Take her on some dinner dates and do some romantic excursions. Remember why you fell in love with her.
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