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writes:I have worried myself sick over this -- am thinking of applying for a job,but the job specification includes much more time, etc. than originally perceived. I fear the impact on my relationship with my bf will be ultimately negative. I dote upon my bf, and things have been getting lovely again. I have trouble thinking myself out of this job because people say they will pull for me to get it.How do I resolve this? I am afraid either way. I love my bf, and may not get the job anyway. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2007): How do I conquer my jealousy, or at least deal with it better? My bf isextremely social and many of his friends are women, some far more talentedthan myself. Most are professional relationships, some old friends that he met before he knew me who are important in his life. And it does speak well of him that he maintains these friendships! Still, he rarely mentions me when he talks to them by telephone, I sort of hover in thebackground and try to throw in a friendly "Hello." But underneath I amwounded...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2007): Hi Country Woman,
I just sent in my job application! Thanks so much for your fabulous insights and encouragement!
Bye for now,
Original Writer
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (4 May 2007):
 Listen worrying about this will make you ill and that is not good.
If your bf loves you he will want to do well for yourself as it is a confidence boost for you and having a successful gf is also an ego boost for him.
Why are you doting so much time on your bf in the first place shouldn' it be the other way round. Every relationship should be 50/50 not one person giving more than the other.
You say in your text that things are getting lovely again, did you go through a bad patch and you feel it is you that has to do all the making up here?
You should just apply for the job and see what happens, there are no guarantees in life but if you approach it negatively then you won't get it. You should go in there with a strong positive attitude and if you get it then talk to your bf.
At the end of the day bf's come and go but jobs don't and we sometimes submerse ourselves in work when things are hard at home so never underestimate that work is not important, at the end of the day it is how we pay our bills and feed ourselves.
Don't stress out about all of this just go with the flow and see what happens.
If you have friends who are willing to put in a good word for you that is worth it's weight in gold any day of the week.
Calm down and don't ever be a doormat, stand proud and expect attention from your bf as well as giving it to him OK.
Take care and wish you best of luck.
BFN
Country Woman
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