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*akeoutthetrash
writes:my mom wants to get a divorce from my dad but my mom cant afford a house for me, my brother, and her and we can't move into an apartment because we have a german shepard who is as big as a horse and she is the sweetest dog ever and we can't leave her. So my mom doesn't kno what to do any suggestions??
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): i dont think u should blame ur mom about getting a divorce maybe things are going on behind closed doors
and some apartments do allow dogs but u gotta pay more
maybe stay at ur moms parents house or someone related to u guys that are nice enough to help..and then u guys could work on the money..or maybe get a trailer
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reader, daletom +, writes (8 August 2008):
Hey there, "takeoutthetrash", I am VERY sad for you. I won't say that "everything will be OK" because I don't know that it will, and misleading you like that is wrong. I can't say that I understand your situation because I have never experienced anything like it. I WILL give you my prayers and the assurance that I am concerned for you.
Your mom and dad are going through their own bad times. Not only are they unable to give you the support and protection you need, but you are actually in the middle of their trouble. They may be trying to hurt each other and, unfortunately, you will get hurt in the process.
Whatever happens, please do NOT think that you are the cause of it in any way!!
I don't know enough about your situation to suggest a good solution. There ARE solutions - probably several of them - although some of them may be harder for you to accept than others. These are things for adults to work out. If you have an opportunity to make a suggestion or offer your opinion, don't be afraid to do so - and do it in the most mature way you know how.
There are adults you can trust to help you while your mom and dad work through their own problems. It might be a teacher or counselor at your school, or somebody at your church, or a coach or Scout leader. If you absolutely can't think of ANYBODY - go to your mom (or dad) and tell them, as calmly and maturely as you can, that you understand they are having problems and you need somebody you can talk with about this. You just might find, surprisingly, that you can be more grown-up than the grown-ups (but please don't tell them that).
Please come back here and let us know how things are going.
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