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writes:First of all, I know that it is wrong for a spouse to cheat. But that is what I am doing. I feel bad but I also feel that the person that I have met is more like me. He is 10 years younger than I and I thought it would be a problem to really be with a person that was younger but I feel like I have more in common with him ,in many ways. Personality, Physical, Sense of Humor, Activities etc...I just feel so bad because my husband loves me even though we haven't been intimate for years. This relationship with this other man has been going on for almost two years and he says he can't imagine me ever not being a part of his life. I do not have children so there is not problem there. I just feel like I am doing something wrong and I would not want to be cheated on and i can't help my feelings and desires. i just need help to leave my situation to become financially independent. I have not been able to work a full time job because of a major back surgery and I cannot support myself on my ownI feel stuck. Are there any suggestions, advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tii3RN3Ybbs.  +, writes (8 August 2008):
 hi there,have u ever thought that maybe its time to think of yourself not others?Because your going to hurt your husband even more than u already have?Maybe you should go with the man u love most,and who u have more in common with,stop leading them on, because in the end one of them is going to get hurt and you wouldn't at all like that to happen even though it wil evenutally.try and resolve the problem, i mean c'mon im 14 and i've already been in that position not exact but like it.,it's not nice.Hope all goes well for you,and u make the right decisions.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): I was where you are month ago today!! I fell completely in love with another man, however my lover dumped me and I am hearted broken and now tryin to rekindle the lost flame at home...at the same time I am wishing my lover changes is mind..my point is none of it is worth it!!! If I could go back I would resist the erge!!!
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (8 August 2008):
 the reason you are cheating is because you are not getting your emotional/sexual needs met by your husband.Along comes a younger guy and of course you feel young, loved and desirable once again.Be careful..what you are feeling with the younger guy is lust/infatuation. what i would suggest is taking classes and preparing for a job someday. maybe something that does not require you to use your back..like receptionist.Either the case..if you do not love your husband, you should let him go. It's not fair for him to be supporting you while you are running around with another man. That is selfish. Take responsibility for your actions. If you don't love him...leave him.If you do..make it work. Either the case, you are doing something wrong.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (8 August 2008):
 Work out what you want. If you love your husband try nd make it work. If not move on, you are responsible for your own happiness in life. If it means you have to be alone for a while then so be it. Dont leave your hubbie for your lover if he is not the right one. Spread your wings and be on your own and then see what you want. xx
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