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writes:my boyfriend is 18 but he has never has sex. i am a bit worred about mine coz all my other m8 have 18 year old bf and their bf have all had sex before. but i dont wont to tell them that my bf has never had sex becouse i am worred on what they would say so if there is any one out that that could help me i be very happy. Reply to this Question
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reader, DIE-romantic. +, writes (4 July 2007):
 Well to be honest, its non of your their business whether or not he is a virgin. I agree with everyone else who have answered this, its something that should be between you and him, not the whole world. Respect that and dont tell anyone about it, because no your boyfriend wouldnt like it, and he may feel embarrassed, and also, i think its a very special thing that he is still a virgin, it does say alot for him, not rushing into it, waiting for someone special. Its hard to find. Treasure him.
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reader, sexi  +, writes (4 July 2007):
 Hi, he is your boyfriend and i personally think that something as personal as that should not really be discussed with any one. Thank your lucky stars, not many guys his age are virgins. Think of the consequences as to what would happen if he found out that you told them he was a virgin. I dont think he would really like that. Dont compare your bf to your friends as you know everyone is different. Just think of it as you being lucky that he committed himself to you and only you( atleast you know that he was with no one else but you)
Let me know what has happened.
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2007): Why would you even tell your friends that? It's his personal business and it should go no further than you.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (3 July 2007):
 It's got nothing to do with anyone else, your sex life what ever stage it is at should be personal to you both.
I think that it is a good thing and neither of you should worry about that fact.
Take care.xx.
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reader, love-him +, writes (3 July 2007):
 Hey babe, i was 15 when i met my boyfriend. He was 19. He was a virgin.. It shouldnt come into the conversation wether or not ur boyfriend is a virgin (im 16 now by the way and been with my boyfriend a year).. Like Jamer70.. Dont compare ur boyfriend chick.. Like him for who he is.. Not for what hes .. not done .. mail me if u wanna talk x x x x x
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reader, LauraE +, writes (3 July 2007):
Insecurity makes some people think that they all have to be exactly the same in order to fit in. Maybe they have convinced themselves that having had sex with a boy who has also has sex; they are suddenly ‘women of the world’. Well, no, actually, they just had sex. Maybe they want to mark their new ‘superiority’ by sneering at anyone who hasn’t also done it. That’s rather pathetic isn’t it? Treat your boyfriend as you would like to be treated yourself – would you like it if he laughed with his mates about your inexperience or whatever? Don’t tell them anything about this. If they give you a hard time about it, then tell them you are very happy with him, and have no idea how many girls he has slept with because you aren’t interested. That’s a teeny weeny white lie, but it will show them that it is none of their business.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2007): I don't see being a virgin as something to be ashamed of. But If you don't want to tell them then don't. It's none of their business whether or not he has had sex. One thing you should be aware of however and that is many of your friends are most likely lieing. So many people today are afraid of what others would say if their virginity were known. If your friends persist in asking about it talk to your boyfriend and ask him what he wants you to say.
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reader, Shortacid  +, writes (3 July 2007):
 Not to encourage it, but you could certainly change that sitaution. Not every guy has sex before they are 18. Its not a big deal until you get well until your 30's then it starts to get a little weird.
I have known high school girls to be pretty catty when I was in HS. They make fun of people to take the attention of their own insecurities. And they would make fun of some of the dumbest and benign things. So if they make fun of him, ask yourself, what are they trying to hide about themselves or their boyfriends. Tell them to worry about their issues (name a few if you want to cut deep and keep them quiet on the matter) and to worry about everyone else, you have your end handled. Remember that a friend may give you a hard time for something but they won't attack you or resent you because of it.
Your boyfriend seems real and pretty honest. That should be enough for you. If he has chosen abstinence till marriage more power to him. Its harder to remain abstinent in this day in age with all things sex sex sex. If he is afraid of sex and the intimacy, its just something that will take you time to get to and understand.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (3 July 2007):
 Well i dont understand how they could make fun of your bf because he is a virgin.
Dont compare your bf to your friends as this never bodes well in a relationship as you nitpick your bf tendacies.
If you truely dont want them to know just dont kiss and tell
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