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writes:So I am recently dating a guy that is 15 years older then me and I'm wondering if anyone has advice on how to make sure that he stays interested in me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): I am 35 years old and lucky enough to be dating a 17.5 yo girl I met through the net. I have been honest and upfront with her about my life and the difficulties and she has excepted that. WE live 3 hours apart but i have other commmitments that take my time so I do not see her as much as I would like. Yes these commitments are kids and there mum. She is fully aware of this. And before people say what the hell are you doing. Im staying for the kids they are my responsibility and there mum I still get on with but no relationship. Im got distracted.Any way my worry is she will be bored of me well before im bored of her. So be yourself and go with the flow. Dont talk about anything to serious as you are to young for the serious stuff like mariage and kids and i dont mean to be condersending. I have told my g/f the same. I am encouraging her to go to uni and all the good things that she should do. Ignor people who will critisise me soon. If you feel righ and happy then be yourself.
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reader, loveNbasketball  +, writes (11 August 2007):
 Hi!
I was in a relationship where I dated someone who was 10 years older than me. I was worried about the same thing. All you have to do is just be yourself. That's how he fell for you right? Don't try to act his age, because you'll look like even more a fool at the very end. Don't force it. If you two are truly in love, then things will come naturally.
All the best,
loveNbasketball
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reader, legacy +, writes (8 August 2007):
Hi Kcat, this guy is probably very happy with himself that someone younger than him is interested in him. Be yourself and that's what he is attracted to. There are so many "what if's" that you can dream up, forget about it. Enjoy the times together and be happy. Good for both of you.Oh one thing, maybe he is a bit wierded out sometimes about your friends, like will they like him or think he's an old guy but hopefully he is secure enough to chance it and if they don't like him, too bad. If he's o.k. and you guys are happy, your friends won't be too harsh on him.
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reader, Uncle Trev  +, writes (2 August 2007):
In answer to your question I would think what it was about you that attracted him to you in the first place. Providing that is there - whatever it is he should remain with the same feelings for you as he had at first.
Just be you and be the you that he fell in love with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007): i think that if you are yourself and it is ment to be then it will happen it did for me im with someone who is 25 yrs older than me and we are engaged and getting married in about 2 yrs and 2 mths we have 3 kids together and im pregnant again he is so sweet and loyal so i think that like i said if you are yourself and he likes you for who you are instead of who you try to be for him then it will work out but if it isnt ment to be then leave it at that instead of trying to push it
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (31 July 2007):
 Just be yourself. If the guy really likes you then he'll like you for being you. If you two are meant to be then it'll happen. I don't agree with people "changing" in to what they think their partner wants them to be.
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reader, LauraE +, writes (30 July 2007):
Actually, you are far more likely to get bored first – as he will be only too aware. He is probably extremely proud of himself for being able to “pull” a young woman like you. I don’t think you have anything to worry about in that department. One thing that might put him off is if you are too clingy. Beyond that, my best advice would be to not make any huge commitments like marriage or babies until you have known him for much longer, because you don’t want to realise that you’ve outgrown him after you are tied to him. Don’t change too much to fit in with his lifestyle and social circle. Keep seeing your own friends, for instance. Just enjoy yourself, and don’t worry about keeping him interested.
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