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writes:I am 16 and my girlfriend is 13. We've been together for around 4 months but we've known each other for years. She's really mature for her age and I must say she's f*****g Beautiful! I've known that she's liked me quite a lot for a long time but i've never really been interested.Then around christmas time we started chatting a lot and getting close. I asked her out on her birthday which she thought was amazing. Don't think she ever really saw us getting together!We love being together but because of the age gap it makes it so difficult its unreal. We never go out together in public, everything we do is a big secret. Some people know about us but not many. I see it as the more people that know the more people that can open there mouths and ruin everything. I don't know if I'm posting this for advice, for someone to tell me that it's okay that It isn't wrong or just so i can talk about it. I find it really hard to talk about, even with the people that know, one of them being my best mate that will stand by me through anything, I just find it hard to talk about. He hasn't known for long and I've spent so long with it as a secret I'm just not used to talking to people about it.To be honest I think I just want people opinions, I don't intend on ending the relationship same as I don't intend on jumping into bed with her the next time i see her because that's not how we are. She bought me this little rubber duck covered in love hearts the other day :) I was well chuffed! And I'm taking her to alton towers soon for the day, so it isn't like were a couple that just get together and worry about being seen. We do do proper things! And I love her to bits, I think she's amazing. But am rambling now. Just people opinions Please.Thanks. x
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reader, scotters1993` +, writes (24 November 2009):
Hi all, I wrote this question back in june when me and my girlfriend had been together about 4 months. In the end we decided to go public and tell people that we were together. Got a bit of stick to start with but in the end it turned out good, we could go out together, just walk around normally as if there was nothing wrong. Someone people said stuff behind our backs and everything but we Didn't get too much stick and didn't really pay much attention to it.
We split up about mid september. We were always arguing, she drove me insane at the end. It was great while it lasted. but at the end it just needed to end.
Thanks for everyones opinions and advice. Helped me make the right choice of going public.
Once again,
Tah x
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reader, PinkyFloya  +, writes (7 July 2009):
Wait, til' she turn 14 then go for it man! :D
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reader, citic101  +, writes (28 June 2009):
 sounds like you realy love and care for her, its very sweet . I would say carry on she cares for you and you her. ok she abit young but girls these days grow up fast
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reader, JGSM  +, writes (26 June 2009):
 I do not think that your situation is weird at all.. ok perhaps a little.. because 13 is very young, and girls are very often more mature than guys in that age, if it was a 16 year old girl wanting to be together with a 13 year old boy I would be disguised, I really would.. But she is still 13, and her body can't be so grownup yet, and that is a little sick.. but am sure she can be quite mature and all.. because there is only three years between you too.. and perhaps you have a lot in common, I think that you should go for it.. and don't care about what other people think.. It is your life, and hers. As long as you are aware of how she really fells, if you do know her you should see if she are ready to go out with a boy, a 16 year old boy. I don't know you, so I can't really say anything, but I am sixteen too and I would never go out with a boy in my age.. I wan't someone mature.. older, wiser and that's more attractive to me.. so I definitely understand her point of view because I started to like older men when I was 12. Of course you aren't a grown man, but you know what I mean.
Good Luck, and follow your heart and gut!
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reader, Starlights +, writes (26 June 2009):
 because she is 13 she is underage and not alot of people will understand your relationship so i can understand why u wouldnt go public with it.
its wrong in the sense she is underage and is still developing into maturity and into adulthood.
the fact is she is still a child under law.
so if she is a child and your technically an adult so it isnt right to continue being her bf.
i guess if u keep it platonic friendship/ companionship for the next 3 years (when she is old enough to know her own mind and what is right and wrong) no harm is done.
good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): age is just a number regardless those who are too empty headed to realise that shouldnt be classed as 'human' in my opinion.and who cares what other people think as long as you are happy then do whatever you want x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): If you feel like it needs to be secret, then you think deep down there's something wrong. If you can't revel in public in a relationship, then you shouldn't be doing it.
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reader, mandyx99 +, writes (25 June 2009):
 i dont think its wrong for you to date a younger girl than you.After all age is nothing but a number.All that matters is that you both really like each other.To be honest i think yor relationship should NOT be kept a secret. If you really like her as you say you do than you should want the whole world knowing that shes yours.
XX AMANDA XX
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